In the last post, I described three women who hooked up with bad-boys, much to their and their children’s detriment. It would seem that these women (and others like them) are attracted to the bad boy, but deep inside know that life with them will not be easy. Therefore, they want to tame him. They want to make him into a man better suited for their needs. The attraction is there, and probably they believe that he can maintain it even after they transform him. In essence, they want the best of both worlds.
Two questions immediately arise. One, can this taming be done? And second, why go this route? Why not try to make a provider-type more tingle inducing?
First things first. Probably taming is not really a good bet. A person has to want to change. And being a bad-boy has its perks, respect and power. Why give that up? In addition, the bad-boy type is probably not so reflective, consequently he is unlikely to decide that change is in order. And what else will he do, other than be a bad-boy? There are not really many visible bridges to other lifestyles. Perhaps with age, he will mellow; but that will take a good bit of time.
Secondly, why not go the other path? The short answer is, for many women — tingles uber alles. They are drawn to the tingles, first and foremost. The women probably also believe that provider types who raise their game are really just fakes, for they knew him when he was not tingle-inducing. For whatever reason, women seem to inherently believe that bad-boy/alpha types are born and not made.
Of course not all women are like what is described above and in the previous post. And it is probably a good thing, for if they were, civilization probably would never have gotten off the ground.