Today a friend at related a story about an acceptance. It seems that the acquaintance had a fine upbringing, was accepted into one of the best universities, but declined to attend. She obtained a fine factory job, but lost that when her newly found drug habit started to interfere. On the way down, she hooked up with her dealer. Like many dealers, he is big on posturing and has money issues. To pay down his debt, he ordered his girlfriend to have a gang-bang with the men he owed money to. She became so enamored with her dealer boyfriend, that she got herself pregnant in the hopes of catching and then taming him. Even after the fact that she knows that he in no way supports his child from a previous baby mama.
Over the weekend another friend related how his sister, a well paid nurse from a high quality family, moved her bad-boy boyfriend in with her. She was soon pregnant; but after having the child, the boyfriend moved out as he did not want to have anything to do with that. Now the non-retired parents fear that they will become the baby-sitters of first resort while their daughter is at work.
I have a cousin who married into the aristocracy of a small town. Their daughter was gorgeous, went to a fine university, but decided to connect up with a fella who never has had a job in his life. He is a sometimes cage fighter. She moved him in, bought a new truck for him, and had two babies. She now looks ten years older than she is.
There seems to be something inherent in women that makes bad-boys attractive. Even to the point of the woman’s self-destruction. And of their children also. It can even strike girls brought up to be good. Whatever it is, it appears just about impossible to stamp out. And today’s more indulging society seems to make it more prevalent.
So what should be done to inoculate girls against such destructive behavior. I might suggest education early and often. Look for teachable moments. But don’t pile on to hard. Furthermore, explain why. Don’t settle for simple explanations; go into some depth.
Though I do wonder how many people view this as a feature and not a bug…