In the last post SfcTon made this comment,
it makes sense that they would need more attention/validation the less womanish they feel
Let us explore this further. Feminism teaches women to act in just about any way except as a woman. Being a mother is not viewed highly, being a good wife is even less, and being dependent on any one man (but not men as a whole) is very bad. Furthermore, women are discouraged from traditional nurturing roles of any type.
It would seem that a natural role for women is now off limits. And what might natural mean in this case? Perhaps woman have a natural predisposition toward motherly, wifely, nurturing roles (NAWALT apples). And conversely, they apparently do not have a predisposition to the typical roles that have been traditionally reserved for men (e.g. laborer, soldier, boss). So if women are not to be women, what role are they to fill?
Perhaps as feminists suggest, they could fill a man’s role. This usually requires continual work and competence. Getting to this state may be difficult; and then when one gets there, it must be maintained.
Or perhaps they could leverage their youth and beauty for wide variety of roles. At the extreme end is attention whore, with Snooki being the prime individual example, and the Kardashians being the prime collective example. All of these roles have an inherent uselessness to them; and deep down the women know this. But there is always at least an element of fun in them, and that is often enough to get them started down the path. Because they do at some level understand the folly of these paths, like a druggie, the women need larger and larger fixes of validation to keep from feeling bad.
Perhaps it would have been easier to be a real woman.