On the previous post, Bloom stated,
My girl’s babysitter is a perfect example of focus on study, not social. Her goal was to complete her education early so she homeschooled, then participated in a program where she went to community college her jr. And sr. Years, getting her AA degree (free!) and high school diploma the same week. Then she transferred to a branch campus of a state college and wi two years she now has her bachelors in early childhood Ed, plans to run a montossori style preschool from home. She married her final year of school, baby arrived a few weeks before her last semester ended. Smart gal, that one! And she’s very happy! Socializing, except church and family events, was not a priority.
When I was 14, the neighbor girl who was a playmate of mine as a toddler started behaving differently. I really did not know what was up. My older sister explained that Nancy was trying to be three years older than she was and consequently searching for a boyfriend. At that age, I was not at all interested in that stuff. I wondered why girls were, as there seemed to be so many other better things to do. In my case, I spent much effort throughout high school learning math and science. This was enjoyable for me, and put me in a good position for University and career.
Recently, I was thinking what the girls were doing during High School. Were they developing useful skills and attributes? after due consideration, the answer was mostly no. They were concerned with social stuff, including boyfriends. I don’t think that there was much of any development there. Probably some de-development in fact.
To be good girl-friend material all these girls need to be is young and pleasant. This is an easy bar to cross. One wonders if girls should be spending their 14 to 18 years developing themselves, and then engage the opposite gender after this (being still young and hopefully pleasant). They would be more mentally mature, and better able to handle things (hopefully no de-development).
Would this work?