It is said that “players” engage in a behavior termed pump ‘n dump. That is, they attract a woman, have sex with her, and more often sooner than not, dump her and move on to the next woman. On the surface, these actions appear odd. The obvious question is, “How does this behavior come about”?
For the man who is a player type; that is, attractive and into sexing up women, he obviously likes the pump part of the behavior. Where does the dump part come into play? Why not just keep pumping the same woman? Firstly, there is probably the “desire for new women” angle. But probably a bigger reason is that the woman starts asking questions about to where is this going? At that point, from a player’s perspective, the relationship has become too high maintenance. And it is time to move on.
A one-night-stand is just an extreme case of this, where the man acts preemptively before any questions are even asked.
From the woman’s perspective, she is attracted to player. The urge to try to make a go of it with him might be strong. In an attempt to make this happen, she gives it up quickly. Once she fells that she might have some hooks into him, she starts asking questions. Then she gets dumped. Then she does it again. One wonders if she really is just in it for the sex and is using the desire for an LTR as just an excuse for doing what she is doing. But probably more often than not, this is not true. There is always the hope that the new one will be the true one. It is odd that this can go on and on with women, but that appears to be the way that they are.