Once again, FuzzieWuzzie stated previously,
Boys enter puberty swimming in hormones and having two pair of left feet. From my parents, nothing. No advice, no sympathy, just blank stares.
My situation was like Fuzzie’s. I got nothing in terms of advice, other than the “get educated, get a good job” advice. Probably most fella’s history is like this. If not, then please chime in.
As previously stated, it would seem that parents were/are deliberately kept in the dark with respect to relevant advice. But is there more? Perhaps there is.
The Bible states,
“Older women likewise are to be teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored” (Titus 2:3-5).
So for young women, they are to be taught by older women. But what about young men? How are they to learn? I speculate that expected methodology through the annals of time was experience. In my personal case, I would have much preferred that a logically consistent and complete model of the domain would have been laid out to me at age 16, but that is me; most young fellas would be not that way. And what way would they be? “Swimming in hormones” as Fuzzie suggests. And might the best teacher in this case be experience? Think about it.
Now suppose that this experience perspective is true. How would it play out in the present day? Poorly indeed, I would think. There are three primary reasons.
1. The sheer complexity of the modern world compared to times past.
2. All of the dangers for men that have been created with respect to this. “Yes means yes except when I change my mind later”, nuclear rejections, etc.
3. The relative power in general that women have now compared to the olden times. To learn well, one must have some control over their learning experiences. With so little control, many men may conclude that trying to figure it all out is not worth the investment of effort.
What comes next when men’s learning is stunted and women want men skilled in relationships?