Raising Children Today — The Tween Girls


Quoting Deti,

My 15 year old daughter is being taught to seek out a good man as early as possible, and to lock him down by age 25. She is not being told to put off marriage; but instead to seek it out in earnest. I want her to market herself as a potential wife to the right man. She’s being told to find marriageable men she likes, can fall in love with, and can submit to as a wife, and to get married to the right man by age 25.

I dismiss concerns that a girl can’t do this. I’m having absolutely NONE of this bullshit that it’s damn near impossible for a young woman to find a good man and get married. Bullshit. It’s not difficult at all. Be nice, be pretty, don’t get fat, be available. Keep your hair long, your weight down and your makeup on. Learn domestic skills like cooking, baking and cleaning, and basic housekeeping.

Yes, pursue education. But let’s say you meet a man and he is 25 and you’re 20, and you will have to move with him to stay with him. Do you love him? Does he love you? Can you make a go of it? Do you want him and he you? Then get married, you go with him, and he will support you while you finish out your education somewhere else.

It’s a young woman’s job to sell her man on the idea of marriage, and to show him that he should marry her, and why he should. It’s not his job to sell her on marriage or to show her he’d make a good husband. It’s his job to pursue his mission; it’s her job to show him why he should take her along for the ride.

This deals with older girls.  But of course, one needs to start young.  The question is how to do it?  How does one raise a girl today such that the bad influences are at least neutralized.  Today, let us concentrate on the tween years.  Girls at this age are just discovering their power, and they like it.  The media chimes in (e.g. Hannah Montana, Monster High) encouraging it even more.  Considering the validation and the fun, how does one suggest to these girls that their time (at last part of it) might be better spent elsewhere?

One might ask, why not let these girls have their fun?  For many, it is the start of the slippery slope that leads to alpha widowhood, undeveloped skills (e.g. professional, domestic) and general unbecoming behaviors.  In other words, it often leads to them being un-marriagable.  But for them, that is in the future, and they don’t want to hear anything about it.

It is really an example of “How are you going to keep them on the farm after they have seen gay Paree”?  So, once again, how does one handle this?

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120 comments on “Raising Children Today — The Tween Girls
  1. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Farm Boy,
    In your post, you mentioned Hannah Montana as medis influence on young women.
    Hannah Montana was played by Miley Cyrus.

    As a thought to the larger picture, we may fall into the trap of generals. Initially, the tactics that they employ are excellent for the last war.
    When thing change in the SMP/MMP in the near future, they will change unpredictably and radically.
    In the meanwhile, the best thing we can do is to make girls see that boys deserve to be treated with the respect outlined by the Golden Rule. Girls are trifling with boys.

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  2. Tarnished says:

    Tell them there’s time for fun, time for work, and time for skill development…then help them with this. Get them into a good Scouting group, a volunteer service after school, or have them start babysitting at an early age. A real summer job would be a good tool for teaching time management, financial responsibility, personal scheduling, and communication skills.

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  3. Tarnished says:

    Well said, Fuzzie.
    The golden rule has survived and been repeated in numerous variations for thousands of years for a reason. Were that everyone lived by it…

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  4. Tarnished says:

    Girls at this age are just discovering their power, and they like it.

    Who teaches them of this?

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  5. Farm Boy says:

    “Girls at this age are just discovering their power, and they like it.”

    Who teaches them of this?

    The media for one. And other girls for another.

    But the key is that modern parents let them do what they want. There used to rules to dampen it out some.

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  6. Farm Boy says:

    Hannah Montana was played by Miley Cyrus.

    Well, there you go. Tween idol turns into twerking slut.

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  7. Liz says:

    It would be really hard to raise girls today, I think. There just aren’t a lot of positive role models out there and kids learn by example more than lecture (really, most everyone learns by example more than lecture…the reason social toxicity is contagious, and the reason social conditioning works).

    I’d definitely steer them clear of social media. That’s a really negative influence.

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  8. Liz says:

    Most of my “good” life choices I’d chalk up to an unusually high level of maturity for my age. I remember a friend I knew in high school. She smoked and drank and had tried several drugs. At 16 she was a chain smoker and when I told her it would cause cancer she’d shrug it off “I don’t care if I die at 70 instead of 80” type thing. She was very promiscuous, last I heard she was a card dealer in a Vegas casino. I’m sure she must look like death sucking on a lemon now. There’s a feeling of invincibility that comes with youth, they can’t imagine they’ll ever get old or the party will ever end. My husband’s sister was that way, too. She dated a drug dealer in highschool and pretty much the flame of her youth and beauty was out by age 21. Really, really got old and fat quick and always made stupid choices. And both of these girls were from “good” and intact families.

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  9. Liz says:

    I might add that it has been my life experience that girls like the above (my husband’s sister, the acquaintance in high school, and several other acquaintances of that type) have always tried their best to make my life a living hell for some reason. Whenever they crossed my path I became the center of all sorts of fabricated intrigue and nefarious practices…who knew my life was so exciting?

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  10. Spawny Get says:

    Let’s hope that the voters of Rotherham and the other cities involved remember where to put their X. Labour are up to their eyes in ignoring this abuse.

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  11. Spawny Get says:

    British media in the past, explained

    sadly some of these papers are mere caricatures of their previous selves.

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  12. Spawny Get says:

    New post is new. The images are too good to just leave on a post that no one will read so…

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  13. SFC Ton says:

    Step one; no cable etc for the TV. Movies on BlueRay and what not only

    Step two; no unsupervised time with said TV etc

    Step three; no unsupervised internet/ computer time

    Step four; no clothes in her closet not approved of by me

    Step five; no dates etc etc

    Step six; all friends and their families get screened and approved of by me

    Steps seven; random inspections… I mean visits at school etc

    Step eight; give her a life mission that includes the value of her virginity, children and taking care of her family above status symbols, vacations etc

    Step nine; mission statement regarding the kind of men she is allowed to marry and what not.

    Step ten; her understanding that you will not support her unconditionally and her status as family is revocable if she crosses certain lines; that you will help her if she makes other mistakes and not flipping out on her over other childhood mishaps… she has to know there are limits to your love but everything is proportional

    Four biggest mistakes I see in child rearing are

    A fundamental lack of understanding of how pop culture is the enemy of traditional White culture/ values etc (& that this is deliberate)

    How deep the pop culture rot goes ( many folks thing Disney or Conutry music etc is ok and family friendly etc not understanding the same enemy running Hollywood runs Nashville and Disney etc all

    Trusting their children and not checking up on them regularly and randomly

    Make kids the focus of the marriage and.family. That’s new age bullshit and the purpose of their childhood is creating adults that bring honor to the family name and strength to your family clan.

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  14. Yoda says:

    the purpose of their childhood is creating adults that bring honor to the family name

    Many moderns have honor not.

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  15. Yoda says:

    Hannah Montanna Disney she was.
    Which more important for them it is?
    Making money or cultural rot?

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  16. Yoda says:

    I might add that it has been my life experience that girls like the above (my husband’s sister, the acquaintance in high school, and several other acquaintances of that type) have always tried their best to make my life a living hell for some reason.

    Crabs in a bucket they would be.

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  17. Yoda says:

    give her a life mission that includes the value of her virginity, children and taking care of her family above status symbols

    Status symbols just symbols they are.
    Little meaning they do have

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  18. All this is something I think about quite a lot, w the Bloomettes. No television, social media, Internet unsupervised for sure. Like Ton says, many Disney “tween sit coms” are feeding them all sorts of destructive beliefs and attitudes. I will add more later but wanted to comment on that point. More thoughts on raising tween girls to come..,

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  19. SFC Ton says:

    Everything Disney has done from the little Merimaid forward has been socially subversive

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  20. Yoda says:

    Everything Disney has done from the little Merimaid forward has been socially subversive

    Socially progressive view it they do.

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  21. Yoda says:

    I became the center of all sorts of fabricated intrigue

    Do all chicks like this not?
    Or just the “non-marriage -material” ones it would be?

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  22. SFC Ton says:

    Yoda, a AWALT unless properly led

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  23. SFC Ton says:

    Many are and I would say in the current culture, most are like that even when properly led.

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  24. Yoda says:

    I’d definitely steer them clear of social media. That’s a really negative influence.

    Like crack cocaine this is.
    Bigger and bigger fixes needed they are.
    Consumes one life it can.

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  25. Yoda says:

    Like her these people do.
    Poor taste they do have.

    http://www.cnbc.com/id/102650475

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  26. missattempts says:

    You can’t fence them off from life. I tried that myself. At the age of 12 some
    people said cruel things to me and I gave up on life. I wouldn’t consider any
    other possibility, through many methods were tried.
    By the time I saw the light, my brain growth was stunted and I was irrepertry
    damaged. I can not socialize. I am a freak. A machine.
    Have pity on those two 12 year old girls in America, a while back who stabbed another
    12 year old girl. The thought they would be rewarded with a trip to “Slender man’s”
    hideout.
    For God’s sake, don’t put them away in prison for 40 years! That would be a waste
    of two more lives.

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  27. Cill says:

    Spawny I would have “Liked” on you, except I can’t bring myself to click on the bald pate of a guy sitting down to a bottle and no hair. Maybe if you’d been faithful to one avatar for a bit longer, things might have been very different between us. I imagine this is just one example of the burdens you bear for having been blessed with MSGL.

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  28. Spawny Get says:

    What bald pate?

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  29. Spawny Get says:

    One of your hobbies must have damaged your eyesight…

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  30. Don’t worry missattempts, I don’t isolate them but I am careful what they are exposed to and I also am sure to be liberal with the “these are the reasons why the feminist advice falls short in real life” talks because I know they are being exposed to that thinking at school etc.

    What did someone say to you at 12 that you took to heart that much?

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  31. Cill says:

    “How does one raise a girl today such that the bad influences are at least neutralized” ?

    Help her to understand that nature is older than a cell phone and Shakespeare is more than a text.

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  32. I remember watching a program a few years ago about how companies were marketing to tween girls. They would seek out “influence” girls, then get them to test the products, then get them to convince the other girls that these were “the coolest new thing.” They definitely were taking advantage of the power of the herd and the “alpha mares” when I think back on that…

    Apparently the “tweens” drive a several hundred billion a year market. I am pretty sure this is the program I watched: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/marketing-to-tweens-going-too-far/

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  33. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    I have to wonder how much of this comes from the permissiveness that has “Daddy’s Little Girl” at its root.

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  34. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Bloom,
    While I can’t answer for Missattempts, I can relate my own experience. Boys enter puberty swimming in hormones and having two pair of left feet. From my parents,nothig. No advice, no sympathy, just blank stares.
    It’s like nature got us all dressed up or a party with no place to go.

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  35. Yoda says:

    Apparently the “tweens” drive a several hundred billion a year market.

    Much money this is.
    Mothers maybe not work and home school for this cost they could.

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  36. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Just read this and had to link. Another message for the tween girl, it’s not “happily ever after” always. Sex later regrettedis a possiblility.
    And, it’s not rape.

    http://www.cotwa.info/2015/05/woman-who-consented-to-sex-claims-she.html

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  37. Yoda says:

    Boys enter puberty swimming in hormones and having two pair of balls

    Corrected this for you I did.

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  38. Yoda says:

    Actually two pair four it would be

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  39. Moehau Man says:

    “How does one raise a girl today such that the bad influences are at least neutralized” ?

    Yeah well, I reckon speak softly and carry a big Kauri Club.

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  40. SFC Ton says:

    Cannot fence them off from life? That’s ridiculous talk. That is exactly what succesf societies do. That and replicate themselves

    LOL about the big club. My daughter feared me more then anything else. That extended into adulthood

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  41. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Not that it applies to today but, in Biblical times, kids as young as twelve were betrothed. They knew who they were going to marry and when. Noe that marriage is being postponed until thirty, that is a lot of doubt that kids have to carry.

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  42. Tarnished says:

    From Fuzzie’s link:
    “Consent is a privilege, and it was built for wealthy, heterosexual, cis, white, western, able-bodied masculinity,” she posits.

    So, once again, individual women can’t give consent because of what amounts to glorified peer pressure. Are you kidding me? Does she realize how utterly stupid she sounds? The guy she had sex with specifically asked her if she was okay, and if she wanted to have sex and she said yes. It’s instances like this, where even a solid, straightforward YES somehow still doesn’t mean YES that makes me want to slam my head into a brick wall.

    Screw this, and screw people like her. If this is truly how feminists view the world, there is no hope for them. Unfortunately, it will be boys and men who shall end up behind bars for not being mind readers.

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  43. Tarnished says:

    My daughter feared me more then anything else.

    What do you mean by “fear”? Do you want your kids to fear you?

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  44. Cill says:

    Tarn,

    Yup

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  45. Tarnished says:

    From my parents,nothing. No advice, no sympathy, just blank stares.

    Same here, Fuzzie.
    Adolescence is already tough. Even more so when it’s somehow assumed you’ll be fine just figuring everything out on your own via trial and error. :/

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  46. SFC Ton says:

    Yes fear and yes. The old ways work and created Western Civilization. This new age shit is destroying the greatest people who ever lived

    Adolescents is tough? LOL bullshit.

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  47. @ Fuzzie, I was watching a National Geographic nature documentary with the girls a few weeks back. One segment focused on male birds doing all of their odd mating dances to attract the girl birds. My kids were enthralled, and we agreed they all looked pretty spectacular.

    But it also made me think how much burden there is on males (of many species) to “make it happen” and yet how little (valid and helpful) info there is available to most young men about how to go about that. Or put in bird terms, how much feather fluffing, dipping, puffing, strutting, and flair is enough — but not too much? It’s a tough call to make without any prior experience or success.

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  48. @ Fuzzie I guess where I was going with that is your post sparked the thought, I need to teach my girls how to understand this, to be sensitive to how difficult this must be and to be graceful and kind even when not interested or when the approach is an awkward attempt. That said, I plan to keep a pretty tight rein on my girls dating. I think kids start this way too young.

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  49. theasdgamer says:

    Watching one of my favorite movies, “Secondhand Lions.”

    http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0327137/

    Very red pill. Two MGTOW bachelor uncles teach their great-nephew about life. The mom runs around with men all the time. Her only reason for leaving the boy with the uncles is so she can get their money.

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  50. theasdgamer says:

    Ton, anyone who doesn’t have a healthy respect for you is a fool, heh.

    People sometimes disrespect me and I have to clue them in. Then they don’t like me, heh.

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  51. theasdgamer says:

    Reminds me of a “fight” at college that I had forgotten about. A frat brother was badgering me, slapping my face, and I kept retreating. After my third retreat, I kicked him in the gut with a straight side kick. Took all the fight out of him. None of my frat bros. messed with me after that even though I was 5’7″ and 125# dripping wet.

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  52. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Bloom,
    They do start too young and the girls start earlier than the boys.
    Thnks from all of us guys for trying to instill in them a “let them down easy” style of disengagement. I am stll haunted by that J4G commenter’s experience with nuclear rejection. He’s scarred for a long time and he’ll never forget it.

    SfcTon,
    Adolescense is tough. When you’re the poldest, you have to figure it out for yourself without a map. You can’t trust adults and you can’ttrust your peers.

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  53. SFC Ton says:

    Some feeds, clothes and houses you
    For the most part, school,sports and social life is your job
    You are not held fully legally accountable by the law

    Contrast that to adult life.

    Second hand lions gets two Ton thumbs up

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  54. Cill says:

    “How does one raise a girl today such that the bad influences are at least neutralized”

    Um, maybe male dumbness would help?

    My sister in law belongs to a women’s club. She sometimes invites me to go to their events, I reckon she gets a kick out of their reaction to me. She likes to push me to the forefront and see how it pans out. She’ll inject things into their conversations like “What do YOU think, Cill?” I’ve got a fairly quiet voice “like a distant storm” (so I’m told) and when I speak they all look away like they should rush off and collect their kids from school. My sister in law gets ginormous fun out of it when I play it dumb, and the dumber I play it more they hang on my words. Sometimes I play it so dumb I think they *must* get it, but they don’t.

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  55. Spawny Get says:

    Oh wow!
    CofE discovers non-PC spine
    http://www.breitbart.com/national-security/2015/05/06/archbishop-of-canterbury-stop-pretending-all-religions-are-the-same/

    Religious leaders seem desperate to hide behind “bland statements of anaemic intent” about what they have in common rather than facing up to the “profound differences” between them, said Archbishop of Canterbury Justin Welby, who called the practice “dishonest.”

    Welby said that it seems that faith leaders fear “that the very worst outcome could possibly be that we end up acknowledging our differences.”

    The Archbishop was speaking Tuesday evening before 350 guests at the annual dinner of the Board of Deputies of British Jews held in central London.

    He criticized the tendency to paper over the real, deep differences between religions “in a world where we’re facing increasing levels of global religious violence.”

    “It is disingenuous and ultimately dishonest,” he said, “because alongside all that we hold in common and all that we share, there are profound differences too in what we believe and in the outworking of our faith.”

    Welby was especially critical of the actions of Islamist jihadists. “It has been a very shocking twelve months,” he said, “with ISIS, the Paris attacks, Boko Haram, Kenya and many, many other forms of very severe religious violence.”

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  56. Yoda says:

    Sometimes I play it so dumb I think they *must* get it, but they don’t.

    An impressive lot they are not

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  57. Yoda says:

    Suprising this would be.
    Anglican Church normally pussified it is.
    “What prompted this” the question one asks

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  58. Tarnished says:

    Scfton,

    I suppose if it works for your family, then so be it. I wish you and yours luck. Me? I was scared…perhaps a better term would be terrified…of my fathers. I lost any and all respect for them years ago. Fear does not beget respect, but rather disgust and hatred. I will quite literally dance on my stepfather’s grave when he finally keels over.

    Fuzzie,
    Agreed. I am the oldest as well, and by a good 8 years at the minimum. With both main parents working, it fell to me to help the younglings with their homework, get the laundry done, cook after school snacks and dinner, showers before bed, making bottles, waking up at night since I was in that part of the house, etc. It’s a smaller part of the reason I do not want kids…I already spent much of my teen years “playing house”. I’ve little desire to do so for another 18 years.

    Spawny,
    I don’t even have words.

    Cill,
    I noticed early on, at around age 14 or so, that certain types of boys and men payed more positive attention to me if I played dumb. They seemed to enjoy pontificating and puffing out their chests about so-and-so matters, and would glare or frown if I said something intelligent or of relevance to said topic. Needless to say, I stopped that act very soon. Better to be disliked for who I really am than to be loved for who I’m not.

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  59. Cill says:

    “I will quite literally dance on my stepfather’s grave when he finally keels over.”
    And I’ll join you. And so will a lot of other men here, I bet. We’ll throw a party and wish the sick bastard a speedy trip into oblivion.

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  60. Cill says:

    Yeah well like I said, I played it so dumb I thought they’d see the humor of it. I’ve given up on them now.

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  61. Cill says:

    SUMO BRO!!

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  62. Cill says:

    I don’t know why I said that ^^^
    I think I was looking for a partner in crime.

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  63. SFC Ton says:

    Intelligence is a weapon and like all weapons, more.lethal from concealment

    Tarn, your notion of fear stems from abuse. Given your unfortunate experiences I doubt you have a good frame of what is healthy. Having my own experiences that is something I can understand but not respect the opinions shaped by them.

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  64. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    TArn,
    That’s over the top responsible for a grade school kid. While I am impressed, I am saddened by the depth to which you got used.
    As for your stepfather, you don’t want to know where his grave is. I don’t think that dancing on it will help.

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  65. SFC Ton says:

    Partner in crime? I have a rough operation order laid out for an armored car heist and a crewed boat would make for an excellent extraction

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  66. Tarnished says:

    Heh. I’m surprised that was the part of my comment you chose to respond to, but am honored to know such good people as the ones here.

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  67. Tarnished says:

    Fair enough, scfton.
    It is a definite possibility that your definition of fear vs mine are completely different, and we are speaking past each other. Would “honor” be a more suitable term that we can agree on? I certainly had a good deal of respect for the men and women in my childhood who proved themselves to be honorable and good leaders.

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  68. SFC Ton says:

    LOL… why? Seems to me thats the pertinent part. I do think you’ll be better off if you can get to the point where you are just blah about him, his life or death or any other such events. Healthier for you and you should let him rent all space in your head but I get it and was just like that at one point.

    My kids got love and support and all that plus they feared me, which is a good reason why they stayed on the right path (the one’s I set them on) until they could see the wisdom and value of it on their own. Which happened for my son much sooner then my daughter. Son’s are much easier to raise at every level.

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  69. Yoda says:

    waking up at night since I was in that part of the house

    Wonder how a unicorn not puncture mattress or blanket I do.

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  70. Tarnished says:

    Point taken and considered, scfton.
    Also, we butt heads often, but I do believe you are an all-around decent guy. I don’t want you to think that I’m condemning your methods of parenting.

    Yoda,
    I don’t have a mattress. Sleep on a bed of soft moss and heather I do.

    Fuzzie,
    I yam what I yam, and it is what it is. Made me into a very sought after babysitter for a number of years, which paid for my first 2 semesters of college out-of-pocket. Just means my “childhood” is now instead of then.

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  71. “Spawny,
    I don’t even have words”

    Well…you could try, “love the artwork on your excellent post about mug punters”
    Try not to overdo the praise like the others haven’t.

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  72. One of the tough things about solo parenting is that I am both the “nurture” one and the “correction” one. I lean toward nurture (I know you all can hardly believe that, so terrified of me you are, lol!) so when I do have to draw the line it can be difficult to be taken seriously. The kids may go, “oh yeah riiight mom!” Although there is the certain tone where both kids know, “mom has had enough!” I call that “satan mommy” voice, for lack of a better term. And then they pipe down right quick, not wanting to see what’s on the other side of that. So I get the whole good cop, bad cop thing. I think this is dad’s role, “the buck stops here.” Not abusively, of course, but dad is the one usually who when he barks, all listen up. (Or used to be, I see lots of pandering dads these days unfortunately). I am guessing this is what Ton means more than he controlled his kids w abject terror. Or I hope that’s what he means!

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  73. Cill says:

    Partner in crime – I’m always on the lookout for a bit of adventure. I’m thinking of giving my power boat one of those clever paint jobs that the U.S. navy uses to disguise the shape of their ships. It would be a good project for “my” young men, actually.

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  74. Yoda says:

    Also, we butt heads often

    Unicorn better suited for that battle it is

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  75. SFC Ton says:

    Abject terror works to. Most things are simply tools. Some times you need a micrometer, sometimes a hammer and on occasion a wrecking ball.

    My daughter mouthed off to me exactly once. I fixed that by letting her see my war face.

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  76. Btw thankfully “satan mommy” voice is a very rare occurrence, maybe less than once every year or two. And brief. Again thankfully. I think the fact that it is so rare that makes it pretty much instantly effective! :/

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  77. Cill says:

    Bloom I’ll send you a tape of Dog and me howling at the moon. Play it when the kids misbehave and it’ll shut ’em up quick smart.

    Better still I could send a video, except that they might catch a side-on glimpse of me (which would not only strike them dumb but send them scampering into the wilderness never to be seen again).

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  78. Imagine dear old mum suddenly turning bright red and bellowing “because I SAID SO!!!” And fire coming form her nose and her head possibly spinning and it’s kinda like that. All dramatic exorcist style, minus the projectile vomiting and flying around the room (so far anyway, but then the tween years are just starting!)

    (Bloom hyperventilates into a paper bag at the thought….oooooommmmm……you CAN do this…….oooommmmmm….positive mantras…..oooommmmm)

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  79. Tarnished says:

    Bloom,
    If that is what scfton means, then I approve. No sides of my family (either the steps or biologicals) where anything more than extremists. In my main family aka mom’s house, she “nurtured” by lavishing us with gifts and material possession, which was an incredibly empty feeling…that our love could be bought, essentially. Stepdad was literally terrifying when he was angry. Like, screaming in your face till you broke kind of scary. I’ve known drill sergeants who were more soft spoken than he.

    I sometimes wonder what it would’ve been like to have parents such as my friends had, or as some of you are. That there are other fathers and mothers like yourself out there is the only hope for our future. May your children heed the wisdom you impart, and know that they are blessed. 👍

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  80. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    I can imagine Bloom in satanmommy mode. the Bloomettes look at each other and exchange the thought, “Uh oh! We’ve gone too far this time!” .

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  81. Farm Boy says:

    Bloom I’ll send you a tape of Dog and me howling at the moon

    So would that be a married duet?

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  82. Farm Boy says:

    One of the tough things about solo parenting is that I am both the “nurture” one and the “correction” one.

    So you need a good cop and a bad cop

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  83. It’s true fuzzie! Their eyes get huge, I can hear the gulp, and then they sneak away, all silently tiptoeing backwards out of the room! “Mommy needs…space…”

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  84. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Karen Straughan, in one of her videos, talkes about her SO. When things are getting close to getting out of hand, he just stands with his arms crossed and taps his foot.
    I wounder what effect a bear taking this pose would have?

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  85. Tarnished says:

    Alright, enough serious crap. Time for random silliness in the form of…Superhero Texts!

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  86. @ farm boy I think ideally kids have both under on roof, yes. Not that parents can’t tag team w good cop/bad cop just to add some uncertainty to the mix, but yes very hard to be both in one person. Multiply offspring by two and sometimes one needs good cop whe the other needs bad cop. It’s a hard line to walk. Loving nurture mommy… Head turns satan mom y… Head turns back “now now, it’s ok baby…” Head turns, fire breathing “RIGHT NOW OR ELSE!!! Roaaaaar!!!”

    Oh vay! It ain’t easy!

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  87. @ cill how did you post a pic? I want to post one of my rooster.
    🐓
    His anger management camp continues. No longer charging at me but he’s still sometimes trying to boss me today, like I am a hen.

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  88. Farm Boy says:

    When things are getting close to getting out of hand, he just stands with his arms crossed and taps his foot.

    I wonder what effect a bear taking this pose would have?

    I wonder what effect a guy in a bear suit taking this pose would have?

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  89. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    FArm Boy,
    Since you have a bear suit, you can answer this one for yourself.
    Let us know and share video if you can.

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  90. Sumo says:

    I’ve been on the road for most of the day, so I seem to have missed a couple of important bits. Are we doing crime? I’m pretty good at crime. In theory, at least. I’m fairly proficient at stopping crime, so logically I should be able to do crime.

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  91. SFC Ton says:

    lol you are a hen

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  92. Sumo says:

    ….I hope that wasn’t directed at me….

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  93. Farm Boy says:

    Cill, writer’s corner.

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  94. I suppose I am a hen, lol. But not his kind. How do you tell a rooster ljbf? Lol.

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  95. I was just thinking, the “influence” girl in the clip I linked to would be 19 about now… Wonder what’s come of her and her tens of thousands of tween marketing sistas?

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  96. Tarnished says:

    Give him food, especially kinds he doesn’t usually get. It will condition him to think of you as a provider rather than a potential threat or source of contention. If you use it sparingly, whole wheat bread dipped (not soaked!) in milk can help with this.

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  97. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Tarn, That may even work with bears.

    Bloom, I think you need to keep at it. Remember, he’s a bird brain.

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  98. Cill says:

    I added a new post

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  99. Tarnished says:

    Probably, Fuzzie!
    Too bad he’s not a bird brain like Alex or Einstein the macaws. Heck, those 2 parrots had a larger vocabulary than some of my customers…

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  100. Ok I was just locking up for the night and happened to see a truck slow down, pick up a hit h biker on the corner of my property. I guess the person is gone but it froze me in my tracks. The kids are in the house, I am locking up out holdings, wtf if…. If…

    (Sounds of Bloom barricading the fort. Mental note need to go gun shopping, or preferably find a good man with guns who likes 40 some yo single mom “thinker” chicks. :/ a tall order, I know…

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  101. But the sunset sure is lovely! La la la…

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  102. Tarnished says:

    Hit h biker = hitchhiker?
    Do you live on a busy road, Bloom?

    Not gonna lie…I’m surprised you don’t own a firearm already.

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  103. Farm Boy says:

    Fuzzie Bear,

    My next post is just for you.

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  104. Yoda says:

    Mental note need to go gun shopping, or preferably find a good man with guns who likes 40 some yo single mom “thinker” chicks.

    Trust in the force you should.
    A Jedi come your way he might.

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  105. Yes hitch hiker. It’s a “main” country road. I need a firearm, for sure. If nothing else than to occasionally fire it off in warning. (The hitch hiker is likely a “friend” of my sketchy druggie neighbors. Mostly it is good solid folks out here but two of my closest neighbors are unfortunately not that. They and I are “good” and they look out for me but I am not sure their visitors respect this … )

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  106. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Tarn,
    When i first “met” Bloom on the internet, it was in the midst of a discussion about what would serve her best. Whjat sidelined the whole concept is that she has kids and wanted to lock the firearms up.
    I’d beter not say any more. As Bloom would say, “la la la la”.

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  107. Liz says:

    What’s most interesting to me, Yoda, is the fact that this story deserves such coverage. Think about what they’re selling here…I guarantee if you go to a highschool in Las Vegas there are more than 20 (gasp!) students with an STD.

    Heck….go to the average highschool where sex ed is required and I’ll bet more kids than that are pregnant or have been pregnant.
    Lookie here, STD rates are twice as high in Phily (one in eight> one in fifteen):

    https://hip.phila.gov/xv/Portals/0/HIP/Surveillance/STD/PDPH-HealthCommissioner_Letter_1_STDAwareness_04072011.pdf

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  108. Yoda says:

    Do children truly not know,
    Or do they care not?

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  109. theasdgamer says:

    @ Liz

    But are the schools where there are high rates of STDs populated mostly by vibrants? Is this a lower-class phenomenon?

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  110. Liz says:

    Vibrants? I want to go to that high school! (hee hee just kidding) 😛

    Think that was migrants? Good question, I wouldn’t be surprised. I’m as certain as can be that it has nothing whatsoever to do with sex ed classes though.

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  111. theasdgamer says:

    @ Liz

    Girl, you pulled my mind down…into the gutter, lol. I was pointing towards the inner city. Black women have the highest rates of STDs and black men have the highest rates among men.

    Now enjoy your date with fempr0n and B.O.B.

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  112. […] Once  again, FuzzieWuzzie stated  previously, […]

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