Deti suggested that I create a post on the wall. I was about to do so when this post came to my attention,
This post helps illustrate the concepts. The lady starts off,
I’m a woman who will soon be 30. I am terrified of watching my physical beauty deteriorate over the next decade.
This lady is facing the wall. It is a period where a woman’s youth and beauty slowly fade away. It is also the time when her fertility starts to fade. This would actually be the driving force, as men are attracted to young women, where “young” is a proxy for “higher probability of fertility”.
In this lady’s case, she is apparently not concerned with fertility, but with the attention and validation she receives because of her appearance. Which, when you think about it seems somewhat backwards.
It’s like I’ve been given this precious gift with the stipulation that it will be yanked away from me before my life is even halfway over. I don’t know how to cope with this. I have these horrible moments now in which I see older women around me and feel a visceral sense of disgust and pity—obviously a projection of my own fears.
One can see that she really does fear the wall. Perhaps she has little to fall back on. In order to alleviate this problem, women normally try to lock up a guy before the wall gets too close. But this is getting harder and harder for women to do.
So the advice to women is to not place your entire worth in your youth and beauty. Try to develop yourself in other ways. Perhaps by marrying a good fella young. And maybe having children. And working on creating a good marriage and family. This plan worked well for many women in times past.