The Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle is a physical law that asserts many things. One of them is that measuring something alters what you are taking a measurement of such that your measurement is incorrect. One wonders if taking your marriage vows not totally seriously has a similar affect.
If one is in a situation, and there is no way out but to make it work, does one go about things differently? In my case the answer was yes. From time to time, I have found myself in such situations. At University, I enrolled in several courses that turned out to be more difficult than I expected. I had little choice but to bear down and figure out how to make it work. In work life, the same has happened on occasion.
What if right from the get-go, I had known that there was a way out? Would it have affected me right from the start? Would it affected me even if at the time bailing out was the furthest thing from my mind? I think that the answer is yes to all of the questions; though probably to different degrees.
And how might it have affected me? Perhaps if any aspect of what needed to be done was just too challenging, I would use it as an excuse to quit. Even if in reality the task was not that challenging, and would have done me good (e.g. personal growth) to complete. Perhaps a man cannot serve two masters at once; and if one attempts to do so, neither is satisfied.
With respect to marriage, a less than total commitment appears to give the hamster some fodder, which he runs with. Don’t be this way.
To quote my good buddy Yoda, “Do or do not, there is no try”