Don’t Tell Me What To Think
Even the NAWALT disclaimer can’t prevent points of view seeming to tell me what I think, like “no matter what you think you think IRL, this is what you actually think here, because we’re men and this is our space and that’s all there is to it. Take it or leave it. Suck it up.” Sometimes the NAWALT disclaimer looks pretty thin to me. It looks like a
crotch crutch to lean on when you want to make an unsubstantiated claim.
Take this :
“Whatever you share with a woman will be used against you at some other date. Not could be but will be.”
Yes. But, the Goldilocks adherents will insist, that’s why the man has to be *strong* as well as vulnerable. He has to be strong enough to survive his wife’s attacks on his revealed vulernabilities [sic]. See?
Apart from white space, what research or authority connects the first paragraph to the second?
So let’s swap horses, and I’ll tell you what you are thinking. You are connecting this: “Goldilocks communication is where you provide just the right amount of information to influence your listener”
… with this (emphasis mine): “In cognitive science and developmental psychology, the Goldilocks effect or principle refers to an infant’s preference to attend to events which are neither too simple nor too complex according to their current representation of the world.” *
(* Other comments on the same post equate women with children, in a negative way)
No matter what mind games go on, I come back to this:
“Even God can’t claim to know what it is to be a worm better than a worm does.”
AWALT or NAWALT, you don’t do my thinking for me.