“Absolutely, 100%, without a doubt the best advice one can give a man (MGTOW or no) who is in the dating pool. If she talks about equality but then bosses you around, withholds sex or uses it as a bargaining chip, expects you to put in more time/effort than she does, or tries to take your money in any way…ditch her. She doesn’t see you as her equal and lover, she sees you as her servant. Women like this are simply not worth one’s time.”
This was my comment over on Call of the MGTOW’s blog last month, in response to his post . You should go read it, his stuff is quite excellent.
Since then, he has requested that I go a bit more in depth with regards to this standpoint. Now, I could just reiterate it…”Verily, should thou knowest a woman who believes thine excrement be odiferous, yet hers be not, then thou shall cast her from sight and company”, but the problem of pedestalization goes deeper.
The Female Truth
The thing is, women are people too. They aren’t angels, or saints, or born overflowing with unconditional love and compassion for every creature who walks the earth. They make mistakes, fall in love, cheat on tests, lie and steal, donate to charities, hurt others, need to shower, drive their car, care for sick relatives, experience doubt, masturbate, go to school, and do all the other things that come with being human. However, society has put the female sex up on an undeserved pedestal, calling them “pure” or “innocent” due solely to the sex they were born in and we are currently dealing with the consequences. Women should not be put above men, they should be treated as equals…in both opportunity and responsibility.
The Male Truth
Men are people too, which unfortunately is a revolutionary concept to some. Not only do they face erasure in reports of disasters (the murders committed by Elliott Rodger were toted as evidence of increased misogyny in the US by the media, despite the fact twice as many men were killed than women, and he openly hated other men in his videos), but are shown as buffoons or incompetents in almost any roles they have in cable TV. The undesirable side of humanity has been made male, whereas the female has been given the best. While others may disagree, it would seem that these factors have combined to create an unnatural propensity for women to believe they are worth more than men…just read the majority of online dating profiles.
What Can Be Done?
Men can begin to wake up and realize:
1. As human beings they are worthy of empathy, compassion, and understanding.
2. There is no reason for an individual man to feel “male guilt” for actions he did not commit or words he didn’t say.
3. That they are free to create their own standards when seeking companionship, and don’t have to abandon their ideals when confronted by women who do not uphold similar morals or beliefs.
4. That being alone does not necessarily make one lonely, and a relationship does not necessarily create a sense of belonging.
5. That their own happiness as an individual comes first, so long as it does not directly harm anyone else, and going one’s own way is a viable option.
When men start to understand that being mocked for everyday mistakes, turned into scapegoats, scolded for having a libido, and stop believing that their frustrations are completely unfounded…we will no longer see women as pristine and men as flawed. Instead, we will be able to acknowledge the perfect imperfections that make humanity what it is.