What conditions make for a stable relationship between a man and a woman? Let us draw inspiration from nuclear physics. As we shall soon discover it makes for an apt analogy. The force that holds the protons (and neutrons also) of an atomic nucleus together is known as the strong force. The force that pushes them away from each other is the electrostatic force (a.k.a. the coulomb force). At a given distance between the particles, these forces are opposite and equal, and there is an equilibrium. Consider this graph,
The electrostatic force is analogous to the feminine imperative, the desire for women to always push the limits, to garner more for herself. The strong force is analogous to a woman’s response to a man’s dominance. In real-life, the x axis represents inter-particle distance, but in this case let it represent the amount of dominance he displays (with further right representing less). Note that the amount of dominance that a man displays is not the same as her response to it.
Consider some cases represented by the graph. Going far to the right, a man displays little dominance attributes, and the only force still effective is the feminine imperative force. This would be the modern beta husband supplicating to his wife. In the middle, he is attempting to display dominance, and she is noticing it, but there is also greater pushback with the feminine imperative (often in this situation it is known as “shit testing”), as he has not yet fully displayed his dominance. On the far left, she recognizes his dominance, and there is a measure of pushback, but the forces are in balance. But not only are they in balance, but they are stable also (i.e. in a minimum energy state, hopefully with no drama). The large “energy hump” on the bottom graph makes this happen. It is difficult to leave this state (going to the right) when it is reached due to this hump (though when it does happen, it is often with great force, not unlike a nuclear explosion).
In reality, the feminine imperative force probably does not have such a shape as the 1/r^2 electrostatic force.. It probably is a bit flatter, and it undoubtedly has various small humps in it, allowing for local minimums with respect to energy such that a stable the relationship can be achieved. Notice that these local minimums would be in no way as stable as the equilibrium point described earlier. Below is a graph that perhaps better represents the situation.
These analogies are a semi-silly comparison between physics and relationships, with relationships being more complex. But in the end, the most stable state is in one place.