A very significant excuse that women use for divorce (when they are caught in an honest moment) is “I’m bored“. This always struck me as odd, as I have always viewed boredom as something that oneself was responsible for. Perhaps it is the fact that I am a fella, and fellas are taught to be responsible for themselves. Also, when I was a boy, I quickly learned that if ever I stated those words, I would be quickly put to work doing chores. Of course, for a boy, life is never really boring, as there is a whole world to explore.
When in my late 20’s, I noticed that activities were not as fun as they used to be. The fella who I rented a room from noticed the same thing himself. It seems that with a measure of maturity, the world just becomes less exciting. As men, we both dealt with it.
Consider modern women though. They are allowed to play their youth and beauty for all that it worth in their late teens and 20’s. It must be a truly heady experience (the topic of a future post I am sure). They are also probably never taught the lessons that boys are taught, primarily that one has to look at their problems and deal with them. When the double whammy of the “wall” and life naturally becoming less exciting hit at approximately the same time, it must be difficult. And once again, their coping mechanisms were never developed, so instability is happens.
I can feel a measure of sympathy for these women, as they were led down the primrose path of outsized expectations and poor character development. But who led them down this path, and who/what is to blame? I will leave this as an exercise for the readers.