Hypergamy Unleashed – The Patriarchal Years


The title of this series is Hypergamy Unleashed. This implies that there was a time when it was leashed.  This era was the time before the 1960’s.  What was it that kept hypergamy in check?  Primarily, the fact that women were dependent on individual men (not men collectively) for provisioning.  This situation was actually a “twofer”; it forced women to consider men seriously in terms of their provisioning potential (and not so much with respect to tingles), and it put men in a position of dominance over women (which women really do want, though most won’t admit it).

Women were counseled by elders as to what type of man they might catch, and what they had to do to catch him (e.g. pleasantness, domestic skill, mother potential).  If they aimed too high, and spent much effort in such pursuits, there was a chance that they might miss out on a good fella that might have been a good match.  If they gained a “reputation”, then few men worth their salt would want her, and she would have to settle, if she could find a man at all. In short, they had to play their cards well.

Seemingly, this put much power in the men’s hands.  It did.  But there was an ethic among men to treat their wives well.  Of course this did not always happen, but societal pressure had its effect (as well as pressure from the wife’s brothers).  Much of the societal pressure came from the churches, which were more prominent at the time.

The situation had a balance.  Each side tried to prepare themselves to be the best catch that they could be, so that they could marry as well as they could.  And young they did marry.  If men with raging hormones were not to play the field, this was a given.  Similarly with the women, if she was to remain a virgin, it was best to do it quickly.  Often, the newlyweds grew up together, and shared the same trials.  Ideally, this would improve their bonding.

As a side note, women were not forced to marry.  And those that did not marry were not forced into destitution.  Women could have careers then.  I had many Aunts who were school teachers and nurses.  In fact one was a Dean of a Nursing College.

This situation is obviously not how it is today.  In the next installment, we will start seeing what happened.

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29 comments on “Hypergamy Unleashed – The Patriarchal Years
  1. Farm Boy says:

    As a note; I saw the Patriarchy fall, though I did not realize it at the time. Much of this is first hand knowledge, other stuff is from listening and watching my older relatives.

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  2. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Farm Boy,
    Something is missing. That women have gained control of their reproductiion allows them to pursue a short term mating strategy. Without this control, the only sensible course was pursuing lifetime monogamy.
    That women are at liberty to pursue shot term mating changed the game and, not for the better.

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  3. Farm Boy says:

    It seems to me that the Patriarchy existes because it worked. It worked well enough such that a modern civilization came about. One should be careful in changing a culture that could do such a thing.

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  4. Cill says:

    Did any other arrangement have much success (e.g. matriarchy, or an arrangement in which there’s not much difference between the roles of the genders)?

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  5. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Cill,
    We don’t have that much evidence of a successful matriarchy. In later years, Margaret Mead admitted that the Tahitians hoaxed her. So, we have to discount that.

    Patriarchy works. What feminists are trying to sell doesn’t.
    Now, where do we go?

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  6. Cill says:

    Not to hell in a handbasket… I hope

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  7. Yoda says:

    In later years, Margaret Mead admitted that the Tahitians hoaxed her.

    Wanted to be hoaxed she did.

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  8. Yoda says:

    Patriarchy works

    But evil it is they say.
    But evil it is how?

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  9. Yoda says:

    Abundant resources and easy life do imagine.
    Matriarchy effective population control mechanism it would be.
    Headaches every night would happen.

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  10. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    After thinking about for a while, matriarchy has to be ugly. There is not awthority for men and no incentive. If men are disposable under partiarchy, imagine how much more expendable they would be under matriarchy. Finally, since women are in charge, They’re not going to cut any slack for women.

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  11. Yoda says:

    If men are disposable under partiarchy, imagine how much more expendable they would be under matriarchy

    Insightful this is.
    Consider it well.

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  12. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Years ago, I saw a National Geographic documentary on the Amazons. From what they presented, they weren’t myth. First an ancient grave and second, a genetic throwback in Mongolia.
    I don’t think modern day feminists would like living with the Amazons very much.

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  13. Padawan says:

    If a Marcot happened to my precious daughter
    Get outta dodge she better had oughta

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  14. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Padawan,
    Could that be what happened to Amanda Marcotte? She grew up near El Paso, Texas and now she lives in Brooklyn, New York.

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  15. Supposedly the Navajo tribe was matriarchal society. Or at least as far as passing on property, which in a way it makes sense as women always knew 100% a baby was “hers.” http://navajorug.com/navajo-indians-matriarchal-society/

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  16. Cill says:

    “Polly Neate, Chief Executive of Women’s Aid, says: “The government’s announcement of a new domestic violence law is a significant first step towards protecting women experiencing domestic violence.

    “We welcome the home secretary’s announcement that the government will criminalise the patterns of coercive, controlling, and psychologically abusive behaviour which lie at the heart of the abuse so many women experience.

    “We hope this new law will lead to a real culture change, so that every woman experiencing control can get the support she needs to break free safely.”

    That’s what it’s really all about, Yoda. Another blade to the plow of root out all men.

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  17. Cill says:

    Bloom’s link to the Navajo article reminds me of a relatively small region of Western China where the women choose the men for one-night-stand sex. Marriage is rare. The women blatantly prefer the foreigners and outsiders and seem to enjoy humiliating their local men.

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  18. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny warned us this was coming and from a Conservative government. Appearaently, they have no intention of conserving marriage. It turns around all aspects of the relationship to femininw domonance as women will never be prosecuted for breaking this law.

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  19. Yoda says:

    We hope this new law will lead to a real culture change

    Admit goal they do.
    Admit the evil they do not.

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  20. Cill says:

    I’ll be leaving soon for a xmas function. It’ll be a dry one for me because I want to drive the boat home afterwards. I doubt that I’ll see you again tonight so I’ll take this opportunity to wish you peace and good cheer for now.

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  21. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Cill,
    Have fun and may you have happy stories to relate when you return.

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  22. Yoda says:

    I want to drive the boat home afterwards

    By boat you do normally travel?
    On Degoba you are?

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  23. Yoda says:

    The student, Omar Mahmood, wrote the op-ed titled “Do The Left Thing,” a piece attacking the concept of “trigger warnings” and ridiculing the overly sensitive nature of minorities that see “white privilege” everywhere they look.

    Mahmood’s satire was written from the perspective of an aggrieved left-handed person who saw slights perpetrated against him by every right-handed person he met.

    Saying that society needs to “do the left thing,” Mahmood wrapped up his piece with the following satirical proclamation: “No longer will I persevere in patience. No longer will I suffer in silence. I am a left-handyd individu@l, and my humanity needs be respected! The next time someone tells you to Do the right thing! turn around and flick them off with your left middle finger.”

    But as soon as the piece was published in the Michigan Review, an unidentified staffer from the school’s official paper, The Daily, claimed that she felt “threatened” by the op-ed and demanded that Mahmood apologize for his piece.

    Threatened she felt.
    Live one day as a Jedi she should.

    The College Fix, the school’s conservative-themed paper, proclaimed the graffiti a hate crime and, in its coverage, detailed some of the vile epithets scribbled against him. In the graffiti Mahmood was called a “dick,” he was called “scum,” and told to “shut the f**k up.”

    Security video of the incident shows that the vandalism was committed by four females dressed in hoodies to hide their identities.

    Jedis they were not.
    Victims of false identity we are.

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  24. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Yoda,
    I wonder if a left handed feminist was approached for comment.
    This is getting out of hand.

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  25. sfcton says:

    Inheritance thru the maternal lines is about men not trusting the paternity of there children

    Patriarchy died when they extended the vote to women. Way before any of us started breathing

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  26. blurkel says:

    It wasn’t so much that women didn’t have career options. It was that they dropped them the minute a man was willing to take over that role.

    The problem comes in when a woman had the superior earning potential. She knows well what she surrendered in income to become Mrs. Workingdrudge. She won’t ever be happy unless her man spends all of his time and energy attaining or supassing that same earning potential. And, she won’t ever be supportive of that effort she demanded of him, undermining it every chance she gets so he can never achieve that status.

    I know many men who ended up broken and used up by their wives’ ambitions, including my own father. I only wish that I had the strength when younger to not get caught up in it myself.

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