Hypergamy Unleashed – Part One

Probably most men have not heard the term hypergamy. Yet it is something that affects men’s lives greatly. Moreover, it affects most men’s lives negatively. Even the men who see its effects in a positive light are in the long term negatively impacted. Furthermore, women are truly victims also (real victims, not manufactured for the news media victims). This all rather seems like the plague. Actually, it is probably worse. The plague comes and the survivors pass on immunity to successor generations. Unleashed hypergamy creates misery for generation after generation after generation (approximately three generations so far).

Hypergamy, in short, is the desire for women to have sex with only the “sexiest” men. “But of course”, one might say. After all, men naturally want the most beautiful women. So, everything is equivalent, and we can all go home. Well, there is more to the story. Much more. Information that many deliberately try to ignore.

Men may want the most beautiful women, but they realize that not all men can have the very best, and are often willing to commit to one that is not top-tier. After all, men learn quickly that life is work, it can be difficult, and that compromises need to be made. From a mathematical perspective, men value women on a more or less linear scale.

Women on the other hand, really truly do want the sexiest men, and place a very high value on them. The non top-tier men are valued very little. This OKCupid study really shows this dynamic in action. Your homework is to go there and read it.


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106 comments on “Hypergamy Unleashed – Part One
  1. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    While I may never find it to link, Karen Straughan was talking about the changes in the sexual marketplace. While men were satisfied with finding a partner to pair up with, as they were never socially guaranted this, women were. What women wanted in the wake of all the advances of the twentieth century was an upgrade on available men.
    In a gynocentric society, whatever they want, they get. How this is to be accomplished is anybody’s guess. At present, they have to share top tier men and the bottom eighty percent can live in basements and play video games for all they care.
    There will be repercussions. Society cannot say “F*ck you” to eighty percent of men without repercussions.
    In the meanwhile, societies and nations that are not participating in this will out compete those who are.

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  2. I would agree farm boy, both men and women are losing out on real, satisfying, deep relationships in this new model. Even the top tier men who are supposedly “winning” seem to be lamenting the new deal. Or that’s how it seems to me when reading the pua sites. I don’t hear many women that say they are happier, even if they cannot say why. The post on my site today looks at this from the hypergamus gal who doesn’t understand the backstory angle, have a look! I look forward to part two!


  3. Farm Boy says:

    What women wanted in the wake of all the advances of the twentieth century was an upgrade on available men.

    And they wanted this because…


  4. Yoda says:

    I look forward to part two!

    More than two parts he probably will have.
    Complex subject it is.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Yoda says:

    Even the top tier men who are supposedly “winning” seem to be lamenting the new deal.

    Much work it is.
    Out of kilter they do feel
    Extensive effort and to no reproduction does it lead

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  6. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Farm Boy,
    The point that Karen Straughan was trying to get across was that women were never going to lose sexual/reproductive access. Sufficient quantity was always there. That left quality as the area for improvement.
    For men, unless you’re very fortunate, access has always been a hurdle.


  7. Tarnished says:

    Correct me if I’m wrong, but hypergamy makes no sense in modern US, UK, Australia, Canada…pretty much anything that you could consider “Western” culture. I realize the evo-psych people among us will assert that 10,000 years ago it made sense. OK. Fine. I’ll buy that. But it’s now 10,000 years later.

    Women can work and keep every dime (minus taxes) just like a man.
    They can buy a house or rent an apartment under their own name just like a man.
    They don’t need an escort to use public transportation, nor do they need a cosigner on a car lease or purchase.
    There’s such an incredibly small (2%) pay gap that can’t be accounted for by life decisions or experience differences that it’s barely worth mentioning.

    Wtf! I can see going for good looks, dependability, and healthy bodies when selecting for a mate, especially if you’re going to be the one to carry the child. But you *cannot* tell me women are so vapid as to not realize they are fully capable of creating decent lives for themselves based on their own merit and work ethic. Hypergamy has no place in a society where resources are open to every Tom, Dick, and Jane who can work for them.

    Don’t tell me that “genetics” overrides ones ability to change. Homo sapiens are omnivores…I’ve successfully been a healthy ovo-lacto vegetarian for 17 years. Both sides of my family are predisposed to alcoholism and addictive tendencies…I don’t drink except a single glass of wine or liquor with dinner maybe 3x a month, and I avoid any/all recreational drugs including cigarettes/tobacco.

    Bulls**t, you can’t change your genetic destiny. Unless we’re talking about extreme circumstances, that argument is a cop out for lazy people.


  8. Yoda says:

    And the answer would be?
    Hypergamy it would.
    No hypergamy — No better men they do desire.


  9. Farm Boy says:

    Correct me if I’m wrong, but hypergamy makes no sense in modern US, UK, Australia, Canada…pretty much anything that you could consider “Western” culture.

    You are going to steal my thunder. Yes, you are correct.


  10. Farm Boy says:

    I am thinking that I am going to need to finish the hypergamy series quickly, before the commenters outrun me


  11. Tarnished says:

    Lol, you just might have to, Farm Boy. 😉

    Sorry for jumping ahead of the “class”. It’s just that the idea Western women still require all these resources from men is crap. Men aren’t wallets. Boys aren’t ATMs in training.

    I see no reason…none whatsoever…that women and men can’t come together, each with their own resources, to create a family or at least an equal relationship.


  12. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Farm Boy,
    You may have to.

    Years ago, I heard that Hispanics were all up in arms about this. Today, I see this.


  13. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    You’re not thinking like them. Her resources for herself and his to be shared.


  14. Tarnished says:

    “You’re not thinking like them.”

    Praise the Gods for small favors…


  15. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    The line of thinking around the manosphere is that, because of all that a woman can do to provide for her own needs now, she requires that much greater a provider to see an improvement in lifestyle to satisfy hypergamy.
    I did once refer to it as a form of greed in a comment. There is a place for it, when it’s time for mate shopping. After that, it is an impediment.

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  16. Tarnished says:


    Using my magical Paganistic powers, I have transmorgafied your site so that it now has a Reblog button. Either that, or I adjusted the settings…Feel free to believe whichever option you prefer. 😉

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  17. Tarnished says:

    “…because of all that a woman can do to provide for her own needs now, she requires that much greater a provider to see an improvement in lifestyle to satisfy hypergamy.”

    Ugh. The entitlement…it burns us! Tricksy womanses!

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  18. Spawny Get says:

    Thanks for the reblog fix. That’s fine.


  19. Spawny Get says:

    Hypergamy within a monogamous system is hard to criticise. Of course a woman wants the best sperm for her eggs. Men want the best vagina and womb for their willy after all.

    But once married, the hypergamy needs to be reined in. IMHO

    There’s also an issue over whether it leads to polygyny, if women will sacrifice exclusivity for access to higher-value sperm and cash then you move to a system of informal polygyny. At which point you may have a lot of men without any prospect of access to women ever. This is a great road to revolution. First class. MGTOW is the peaceful reaction to societally toxic female behaviour, there are others. Some say that part of the reasons for the Arab Spring was this. many lower class men couldn’t find work and so had no prospect of any family. They had nothing to lose in their eyes.


  20. Yoda says:

    Women can work and keep every dime (minus taxes) just like a man.
    They can buy a house or rent an apartment under their own name just like a man.
    They don’t need an escort to use public transportation, nor do they need a cosigner on a car lease or purchase.
    There’s such an incredibly small (2%) pay gap that can’t be accounted for by life decisions or experience differences that it’s barely worth mentioning.

    “Rape Culture” holding them back they do say.
    Loudly they do protest.
    Bill Shakespeare commented on that once he did.


  21. Yoda says:

    Hypergamy within a monogamous system is hard to criticise.

    Sex outside of marriage (before and after) brutally punished it must be.
    Otherwise work it will not.


  22. Tarnished says:

    Eh, hardly fair for those of us who don’t want to be married…Can’t we just legalize and create standards for prostitution instead?


  23. Spawny Get says:

    Marriage? no, no, no…no, no…no


  24. Yoda says:

    Marriage protected a man’s investment it once did.
    Protects her lifestyle today it does.

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  25. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Tarn, Spawny, and Yoda,
    The one thing that we can agree on is that things, as they are, are not working.

    The current thread over at Bloom’s has lead me to conclude that a big weakness is that men don’t have a whole lot of confidence in women.


  26. Spawny Get says:

    you need to find a unicorn, buddy.

    I don’t believe that women can’t be rational adults capable of honouring their word and understanding consequences…but that’s not how the state is currently raising them. All you might do is test to the point that you personally look at the gamble you’re taking and decide that this woman here and now is worth the gamble for you because you have specific reasons for taking that gamble.

    Tarn makes a very poor example because she describes herself as having a male mind. In all my correspondence with her I have found no reason to doubt the accuracy of that. I use her/she but I speak as if to a male, I would guess this would be my reaction IRL.

    I’ve had no particular corresponding correspondence with other women who comment here, but (FWIW) I reckon there are a couple of NAWALTs amongst us.

    They do exist, but they’re behaviour is a product of themselves, the state doesn’t police their behaviour unless it’s well outside acceptable norms for men. They will always have access to the weapons to harm you by proxy.

    Now ‘all’ you need to do is balance how much you desire a woman in your life against the costs of hunting one and your level of aversion to living in the shadow of the law.

    Your decision is not likely to be the same as mine. And that’s fine. I’m not the Messiah that you seek, I’m just a very naughty boy. Nobody burns for disagreeing with me…


  27. Spawny Get says:

    Top dating tips. The one at 1:05 being particularly fine

    1:44 is for teh laydeez to avoid


  28. Tarnished says:

    With good reason.
    NAWALT, but EWALT.

    I’ve said numerous times that were I a male, I’d also be a mgtow.


  29. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Found this on AVfM. I think they are linking more videos from Christina Hoff Summenrs than Paul Elam.In this one she exposes the Univ. of Va. rape scandal as a lesser hoax than rape culture.


  30. Yoda says:

    but that’s not how the state is currently raising them

    Telling this is.
    The word “state” cat from bag does escape.

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  31. Yoda says:

    don’t have a whole lot of confidence in women

    Many degrees women do have.
    Competent they are we are told.


  32. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    Maybe I do need to find a unicorn. To be honest, I never thought that I was being all that unreasonable in what I want in a woman.
    I don’t know if you followed Patrickhenryist who’s youtube channel is Life After Women but, he went looking for a unicorn. He gave up after trying hard.

    [SG – I added his channel to the links page – thanks]

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  33. Spawny Get says:

    I remember watching a few LAW videos, and remember liking them. Suitable for a link on the links page he is.


  34. Yoda says:

    I never thought that I was being all that unreasonable in what I want in a woman.

    Unreasonable you were.
    Little bargaining power you had.
    System debased currency of all men it did.
    Weimar Germany destination is.


  35. Spawny Get says:

    Hobbitses have come up a few timesis


  36. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    I was only unreasomable inlight of present day features like Marriage 2.0 and default feminiine dominance.
    I am getting sick thinking about all this. It’s unworkable and we aren’t meant to live this way.


  37. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    The misandry will neer stop. I understand that all the victims were men and boys. The article from Reuters doesn’t mention that.



  38. Tarnished says:


    Screw all this shite…
    Let’s just open a unicorn farm:http://www.sideshowworld.com/9-ms-pi/interview-OZ.html


  39. Yoda says:

    I understand that all the victims were men and boys.

    Women biggest victims they were.


  40. Spawny Get says:

    “I understand that all the victims were men and boys”

    I haven’t seen it plainly stated, but if it is so the reporting is a fucking disgrace.


  41. Spawny Get says:

    “Let’s just open a unicorn farm”…so, they’re tasty?


  42. Tarnished says:

    Noooo, Spawny.
    Not everyone is for eating, lol.


  43. Spawny Get says:

    “Not everyone is for eating”

    There’s a fine tip from Tarn, folks.

    She’s right, I forgot beer. Somethings are for drinking.


  44. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I might well have gone off half-cocked by saying that all the victims of the Pakistani Army School massacre were boys and men. I couldn’t find anyy info wrt gender anywhere except for one female teacher who was a victim.


  45. Spawny Get says:

    I’m sure that the victims are overwhelmingly male, or else they would state the number of ‘primary’ victims up front. I was interested if you had a source that would confirm my suspicion, that’s all. No harm done.


  46. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I found where I got that impression. On the right hand column of AQVfM’s page there is a list of links entitled “Hot on the Web”.
    “Pakistan in shock after school attack that killed more than 100 boys (but they don’t mention that it was boys)


  47. Spawny Get says:

    Yeah, I saw that link too. I only skimmed it, but didn’t catch ‘all’. It’s of only minor interest as we know the game they’re playing, we only lack the specific number.


  48. Yoda says:

    If girls it had been,
    know it we would have.
    Michelle Obama photo op she would do.


  49. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    It is well that you didn’t. That link on AVfM’s page would have taken you the Huffington Post.

    Thank you for reminding me of Michelle Obama’s pandering. Kidnap girls, it’s news and something needs to be done. Kill boys-yawn.


  50. Spawny Get says:

    Porn is better than the average woman

    Women still have a tendency to think they’re the only game in town and behave accordingly. But they’re not. Men have always felt the call of the wild, but the combination of a good woman and societal pressure tended to overwhelm that. But when marriage increasingly looks like not having sex with an obese bitch who can rob you at any time, it’s little wonder that more young men are opting for doing whatever they hell they want all the time for the rest of their lives instead.

    It’s idiotic to claim that porn is the problem. It’s not the problem, it is the suboptimal solution to the real problem. The problem is that far too many women have been raised in a manner that renders them unattractive to the opposite sex and essentially unmarriageable. The boys always go where the attractive girls are. If they can’t be bothered, that means the girls are insufficiently attractive.


  51. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I saw that at Alpha Game. Vox Day took shaming men for watchi8ng and turned it around to women presenting themselves less than optimmumally.
    It was over due to be stated.


  52. Spawny Get says:


    Also, related

    Men not at work

    So many conservative social commentators, like Ross Douthat, fail to account for feedback loops in the sexual market, and how that trickles up and affects the economic market. They have a blind spot about women, preferring to lay blame for all society’s woeful indicators at the feet of men, so that they may continue polishing the pedestal of their faire maidens.

    But men react to opposite sex cues just as much as women do. Think of men as having two engines of motivation, one internal, one external. The internal engine is self-starting and self-perpetuating, and it evolved to confer upon men a shot at raising their status so that they could attract more and better women.

    The external engine is context-dependent. Visual cues fuel it, and it puts out more power the more enticing visual cues are fed into it. This engine, too, is a product of evolution, but it is more easily short-circuited by negative environmental inputs that were rare in the millennia when evolution was working to perfect both engines.

    Men’s (white men’s, at any rate) external engine of motivation looks around, surveys a landscape teeming with land whales, single moms, and sluts, and decides that, hey, working their asses off in a crappy, low-wage job for a shot at wifing up George Lucas’ pelican gullet is the dictionary definition of a raw deal. Throw in the growing ranks of single moms, even the thin fuckable ones, and the women who have amassed considerable premarital histories on the cock carousel and are therefore less likely to stay faithful or to avoid the divorce altar, and men’s motivation to perform for these female losers dwindles to nothing.

    Now add the finishing ingredient — porn — and you have most of what you need to know about why marriage rates are falling and men are dropping out of the economy, particularly among the lower classes. (The upper classes have more stable marriages because getting married later in life circumscribes the availability of tempting extramarital options, especially for older wives. Plus, upper class women are generally thinner and hotter.)

    Dropped-out men may not be consciously happy about their non-employment and increasing alienation from society, but subconsciously they are making very rational cost-benefit decisions based upon real world incentives and disincentives. In 2014 America, cheap online porn is more rewarding than an expensive fat wife, and disability insurance more rewarding than working at a paint shop for $9 an hour. Change those two inputs — make both American women and American wages more attractive — and you will begin to see men dropping back into contention.


  53. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I went and read it. So cynical and all too true.
    What the heck are men going to do?
    Very few women are going to come to the conclusions tha our Bloom has.


  54. Spawny Get says:

    I don’t think that there’s much we can do about society. I’m going to vote to put the biggest foot up my local political class’s arse. Europe and the Euro are not looking great, which is positive for, you know, the Europeans.

    I’d like to socialize more with my online friends…those with Google+ and/or Skype. Fuzzie (too subtle?)

    I’ve got software projects to play with (enjoyable), beer coming tomorrow, manly hobby outing on Saturday and/or Sunday. Got some culinary experimentation in mind. Blog posts to write, read and comment on with friends.

    Got some DIY and maintainance to look to. To give a few more options down the line. Maybe rent out my house and travel on that money and savings.


  55. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    If you want to do something nasty to politicos, Canadian female legislators have found a way.


    This is stuff so low, Sen. Joseph McCarthy R-Wis. wouldn’t stoop to it.

    The thought of having a party on google with video chat sounds like fun!


  56. Yoda says:


    Your efforts go toward women not.
    Collectively bitter they will be.


  57. Spawny Get says:

    All you need is a Google+ account…

    Catch you tomorrow


  58. Cill says:



  59. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    All I was able to see is “Testing”. You’re back up and running just in time to miss Spawny.
    By the way, he has suggested that we have a party on Google+. That may be kind of fun!


  60. Yoda says:

    I’ve got software projects to play with (enjoyable)

    Please explain if you Will.


  61. Cill says:

    Hi Fuzzy, Yoda,
    I still haven’t got it totally fixed.


  62. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Hi Cill!
    We’ll look forward to you telling us what it was caused by.


  63. Yoda says:

    By the way, he has suggested that we have a party on Google+

    Haggis eat i will not.


  64. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Mrs. Yoda could make us all sandwiches.


  65. Cill says:

    Damaged cable about 2 Ks down the line. I’ve done a temporary splicing job on it. It works but not 100% I don’t want to spend much time or money on it because it’s all going to be replaced with fiber optic next year.

    Party on Google sounds great! If you haven’t done it before, learn how to maximize the chat box. Otherwise it’s rather claustrophobic even for a 2 man chat.


  66. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    I hope that it does not trouble you again. I don’t want to have your cable bill. Ouch!


  67. molly says:

    Problem #1 : fix Cill’s broadband cable so he can watch videos! 😕


  68. Spawny Get says:

    Yes Molly,
    World peace is a great concept, but sometimes one is required to prioritise.


  69. Spawny Get says:

    Engage smirk mode…
    Smirk mode engaged…

    Bring it on comrades. This farce of all degrees being equal has been long ready to be popped.


  70. Spawny Get says:

    Just blame Tarn, this is all her fault

    And Tarn? That sound that you hear? That is not the sound of forgiveness.

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  71. Yoda says:

    University of Pennsylvania professor suggested that the government crackdown on porn access, especially as more and easier tools to tap into the Internet, such as smartphones, expand.

    Cut access to ersatz substitutes they will.
    Improved product they consider not.

    Liked by 1 person

  72. Yoda says:

    World peace is a great concept.

    Auditioning for Miss Kiwi contest she is?

    Liked by 2 people

  73. Yoda says:

    And Tarn? That sound that you hear? That is not the sound of forgiveness.

    Ruble deflating it is.

    Liked by 2 people

  74. Spawny Get says:

    You’re on a roll.

    What we need is the radical notion that men are people too. Ones that react to the shitty options on offer to many of them.

    Liked by 1 person

  75. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Yoda at 9:43pm,
    I read it. There is something else. Always shame men ahead of shaming women. Offending women make advertiser very nervous. They spend over eighty percent of the money in the economy.

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  76. Tarnished says:

    But…porn is fun. 😦


  77. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Guinea pig videos on youtube are fun!
    I don’t know what’s right or wrong anymore. The one thing to be certain of is that this culture wuill find a way to vilify men in any event.


  78. Spawny Get says:

    What’s the betting that they’re only talking about pink bits porn for men, not emo-porn soaps, reality BS, divorce porn for women?


  79. Spawny Get says:

    Tarn’s Llama drama videos were horrible, certainly don’t watch the video I embedded…


  80. Tarnished says:

    Dear Gods man…that isn’t porn! Those are the stuff of nightmares!


  81. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    Whenever these arguments come up, emo-porn is never considered.
    Why? It’s different!

    I did watch the Llamas with Hats. Homocidal llamas????


  82. Spawny Get says:

    Only one Fuzzie, only Caaarrrrrllll is homicidal


  83. Yoda says:

    Good post topic this would be


  84. Yoda says:

    Emo pron that is


  85. Spawny Get says:

    Homicidal llamas in hats?


  86. Tarnished says:


    I’m a really warped person.


  87. Spawny Get says:

    Oh! Anyway only Caaarrrrrrllll was homicidal.


  88. Spawny Get says:

    Caaaarrrrlll the llama and Tarn the unicorn…what a couple.


  89. Moehau Man says:

    On the subject of porn, I never did see much value in it. Watching porn in my cave was always a bit like bringing coals to Newcastle, with the cave end having a lot more spark than the coal coming in. For appendage swinging prowess, a Moehau Man is hard to go.


  90. Spawny Get says:

    You back again? For good? Maybe you can nudge a couple of people about Google+?


  91. Tarnished says:


    You’re doing porn wrong.

    Liked by 2 people

  92. Moehau Man says:

    Mrs Moehau Man (my ribald old mum) remarked about the porn star bloke, “he ain’t got no sap”. She does speak from experience, as she is capable of crushing chestnuts with a quick clench of her buttocks.


  93. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    You’re not warped. Guinea pigs, like most animals, know.

    Spawny Get,
    I came close to linking Naughty Bear.


  94. Spawny Get says:

    Knucklebump for Tarn.

    Moe, did you watch the vid on the latest post?


  95. Cill says:

    “Moe, did you watch the vid on the latest post?”

    Hang on Spawny, let’s get the following out of the road first:


    You’re doing porn wrong.”




  96. Cill says:

    Bloody hell…


  97. Cill says:

    First prize for subtle wit goes to Tarn. No question.


  98. Spawny Get says:

    What stopped you Fuzzie? So far the only comments I’ve deleted have been at the writer’s request, or most recently, I fixed the original comment and deleted the ‘I cocked up’ comment. No bear vids have been tampered with.

    Going to try for an early night…I may disappear


  99. Spawny Get says:

    “(weep)” we’ve moved on from guinea pig impressions, do try to keep up.


  100. Yoda says:

    an increasingly popular idea among many progressive writers on marriage and family: The theory that the falling divorce rate (among other indicators) among college-educated Americans is evidence that marriage has been successfully reinvented in the wake of the sexual revolution; that progressive ideas — the acceptance of premarital sex and cohabitation, an egalitarian vision of gender roles in parenting and breadwinning, a stronger emphasis on romantic compatibility and personal fulfillment — have basically been responsible for that reinvention;

    Sith mind tricks here they do operate.


  101. Spawny Get says:

    “Marriage better now they claim,” Great!!!

    Just divorce and family court and FDV and FRA to go then.


  102. Moehau Man says:

    I must admit, Stickman and Throbbin wasn’t too bad. “I thought the line where they jumped in the Stickmobile and BatStickman said “Insertion Throbbin” was particularly clever.


  103. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    Everything I post gets through. No problem there. Today, I just haven’t been that inspired. Sleep well!

    The upper income people are less inclined to divorce. It’s expensive. Could it be that they have reached a balance?


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