Consider this quote from Dr. Helen Smith’s book, “Men on Strike”: “The biggest communication problem is that most women see “relationship” as a positive thing. Most men see it as an ambiguous thing”. After careful consideration, at least in the modern times, I would have to agree.
First, consider the fellas. He has male friends. What are the relationships typically like? Normally it is the guys getting together and doing something, playing football, video games, working on the their car, riding motorcycles, etc. Often when they talk to each other it is incidental to what they are doing. For example, they are both waxing a car. The fellas like having each other around and do they accomplish stuff together.
Now consider the ladies. They mostly talk and not so much do. To clarify, talking is the purpose, not an incidental side-effect. When I was a child my older sister would always be getting telephone calls from her girl-friends. It came to the point where nobody would answer the phone, we would all wait for her to pick it up. And what did she talk about. People at school. For hours and hours. Every day.
Now, put a guy and a girl together. The guy thinks that a good night is going to see a movie with his girl, or perhaps watching TV together. The girl thinks that a dinner with lots of conversation is the ideal. In bed, what does the fella want to do after the deed is done? What does the lady want?
Clearly women define much of a relationship as “talking about stuff”. And what does a guy think of this? Especially if talking is the point of the current activity? Perhaps he thinks of it in terms of maintenance. And maintenance is not typically an enjoyable activity. Perhaps it can be considered at best to be neutral.
In modern times there is no suggestion that women tone down the gossip. In fact it is celebrated and amplified by such things a Facebook. This is one more attribute where women have gone feral. And how does this affect the normal fella? It would seem that he must do more “maintenance” than his father or grandfather did. But it is it worth it?