Farm Boy on the differing views on ‘Relationships’


Consider this quote from Dr. Helen Smith’s book, “Men on Strike”: “The biggest communication problem is that most women see “relationship” as a positive thing. Most men see it as an ambiguous thing”.   After careful consideration, at least in the modern times, I would have to agree.

snuggles1First, consider the fellas.  He has male friends.  What are the relationships typically like?  Normally it is the guys getting together and doing something, playing football, video games, working on the their car, riding motorcycles, etc.  Often when they talk to each other it is incidental to what they are doing.  For example, they are both waxing a car.  The fellas like having each other around and do they accomplish stuff together.

Now consider the ladies.  They mostly talk and not so much do.  To clarify, talking is the purpose, not an incidental side-effect. When I was a child my older sister would always be getting telephone calls from her girl-friends.  It came to the point where nobody would answer the phone, we would all wait for her to pick it up.  And what did she talk about.  People at school.  For hours and hours.  Every day.

Now, put a guy and a girl together.  The guy thinks that a good night is going to see a movie with his girl, or perhaps watching TV together.  The girl thinks that a dinner with lots of conversation is the ideal.  In bed, what does the fella want to do after the deed is done?  What does the lady want?

Clearly women define much of a relationship as “talking about stuff”.  And what does a guy think of this?  Especially if talking is the point of the current activity?  Perhaps he thinks of it in terms of maintenance.  And maintenance is not typically an enjoyable activity.  Perhaps it can be considered at best to be neutral.  

snuggles2And what of the lady? Obviously she likes this “relationship” stuff as defined by her.  It is what she does with all of her girlfriends, and they love it, do they not? 

In the olden days, women were taught to tone the gossip in general down.  Furthermore, they were taught to treat men with respect.  Part of that respect was to defer to him in terms of defining their relationship.  For example, my Dad was a quiet introvert.  My Mom respected that.  I am a quiet introvert also.  She did the same for me.  

In modern times there is no suggestion that women tone down the gossip. In fact it is celebrated and amplified by such things a Facebook. This is one more attribute where women have gone feral.  And how does this affect the normal fella?  It would seem that he must do more “maintenance” than his father or grandfather did.  But it is it worth it?

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95 comments on “Farm Boy on the differing views on ‘Relationships’
  1. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Farm Boy,
    If this is your very first post, may I congratulate you?

    After considering this for a few minutes, it seems that men have conceded social dominance to women. In your parents’ time, they accommodated each other. Now, it seems to be whatever she wants, whenever she wants it.

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  2. Spawny Get says:

    Fuzzie, this was entirely his post (including images). Any time that you want to try just email the body of the post (and optionally some pix).

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  3. Spawny Get says:

    A lot of harm has come from the rampant BS that men are defective women.

    And it will rebound on women in the end. As they lose their looks but not the babble, while continuing to push back the age where they wish to settle down, the temptation for a guy happy in himself to put up with the relationship experience drops.

    Men aren’t like women, they don’t like drama, they don’t like talking endlessly for the sake of it, they don’t need to exchange views with you all the time (ladies) because most of the time they don’t care what your views are about unimportant crap like bigbrother, bonobos of jersey shore, perish hilton or the karda$$ians latest blatant money grabbing scam drama.

    We don’t care, we only pretend to care to get into your knickers. Same as some of you lot pretending to like sex until the ring is delivered.

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  4. Cill says:

    Another difference is group bias. Women have it, men don’t:

    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15491274
    Four experiments confirmed that women’s automatic in-group bias is remarkably stronger than men’s and investigated explanations for this sex difference, derived from potential sources of implicit attitudes (L. A. Rudman, 2004). In Experiment 1, only women (not men) showed cognitive balance among in-group bias, identity, and self-esteem (A. G. Greenwald et al., 2002), revealing that men lack a mechanism that bolsters automatic own group preference. Experiments 2 and 3 found pro-female bias to the extent that participants automatically favored their mothers over their fathers or associated male gender with violence, suggesting that maternal bonding and male intimidation influence gender attitudes. Experiment 4 showed that for sexually experienced men, the more positive their attitude was toward sex, the more they implicitly favored women. In concert, the findings help to explain sex differences in automatic in-group bias and underscore the uniqueness of gender for intergroup relations theorists.”

    (I added the emphasis)

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  5. Cill says:

    Women gossip to and about each other to consolidate their innate group bias. In my teens I was shut out of a group and actually felt more relieved than sad. It’s much worse for a woman shut out.

    If women outnumber men and are not educated against their group bias, democracy must inevitably turn into an autocracy. Different men will vote across the spectrum and women will vote for their gender. The latter must prevail.

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  6. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    That last line in your last comment, meant to be a throwaway, is a big bone of contention on the married Christian blogs.I don’t know what gets into women thinking that they can have an asexual relationship with their husbands and all wil be well.

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  7. Spawny Get says:

    Hey Fuzzie,
    “meant to be a throwaway”

    mmm, not so much a throwaway as much as a ‘I don’t know how widespread that is’. It didn’t happen me It’s not a conversation that I have ever had. But I believe that it does happen. I would regard the phenomenon as being the utter betrayal of a husband by his wife.

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  8. Spawny Get says:

    “It’s much worse for a woman shut out.”

    Maybe Tarn can tell us how many times women tried that on her as punishment, only to be horrified that Tarn didn’t give a damn. I reckon it’ll be a lot. It’s their ultimate, never fails, ostracising trick…’othering’…teh horror, teh horror.

    What do women do when they discover that men don’t care what they feelz about them?

    What do women do when men stop caring when the women attempt shaming of them?

    I really think that we’re getting to that point. Not with everybody, but with enough men. Some women are panicking that they overplayed their hand, they go WomenAgainstFeminism. Others just do what a lot of idiots do when their strategy isn’t working; ‘double down’ on stupid (valenti’s just pay menz less). The majority just wait around chewing the cud, waiting to see a winner emerge…then they follow that leader. Then they claim that they always did.

    Anyone remember where the quote from a woman ‘I fight for men in my head’ came from? That’s the best you’ll get from most women, because most women like other women far more than they like the vast, vast majority of men (maybe all men).

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  9. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny,
    Even as a single guy, this issue frosts my pumpkin. Nobody knows how deep this goes and my guess is that goes very deep. Not only wives going cold but, wives using sex as a lever against their husband’s behavior should be considered.
    It does all stem from needing two willing participents.
    If the depth of this were widely understood, marriage would be a lot harder to sell to emn.

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  10. Farm Boy says:

    The pictures are from the USS Missouri Memorial in Hawaii. It is a statue of the of a fella grabbing a random nurse on the street and kissing her after victory in WWII was announced. It would seem to be odd for the US government to be promoting rape culture, but there it is.

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  11. Farm Boy says:

    it seems that men have conceded social dominance to women.

    Guys want low maintenance (usually). Not gonna happen today.

    Related (but not quite the same) is that men want pleasant women.

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  12. Yoda says:

    Related (but not quite the same) is that men want pleasant women.

    Write post on this you should

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  13. Farm Boy says:

    My young nephew works long hours to make his small business go. A girl wanted to be his girlfriend, but she demanded that he cut back his hours so that he could spend time and money on her. He said no. I think that she was shocked.

    Good for him. He maintained frame.

    Courtship was supposed to be more for determining compatibility than “having fun”. Seems that things are oddly reversed these days.

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  14. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Yoda,
    That men would want pleasant women is not exactly news.
    To whom were you addressing your question about writing a post?

    Farm Boy,
    Those two who made immortal in that photograph became friends for life.

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  15. Yoda says:

    To whom were you addressing your question about writing a post?

    Women as they understand not.
    Causes of dysfunction interesting they are.

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  16. Spawny Get says:

    Being pleasant to men is bowing to the oppressors.

    Men lovez them women with moxy, didn’t you guys get the memo? And Sassy! We lovez sassy women, they rock!!!

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  17. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    While this is a rhetorical question, how do women get so many bad ideas about what men like? I have always thought our needs and desires are simple.

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  18. Yoda says:

    didn’t you guys get the memo?

    No I did not.
    I was in a galaxy far away and a long time ago.

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  19. Spawny Get says:

    via Twitter
    http://www.redditlog.com/snapshots/1295413

    Very well worth a quick squiz, maybe even a gander…Seriously on topic. If someone wants to copy bits over, that’s cool. I’m mobile right now.

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  20. Farm Boy says:

    Those two who made immortal in that photograph became friends for life.

    So you see it once again. She liked the guy, so it wan’t rape. If he had been “creepy”, then…

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  21. Spawny Get says:

    Where, Fuzzie? The worst, the most unreliable sources ever: the femeroid press, and each other…

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  22. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    What the heck is wrong with them? It’s not news that women’s magazines have been founts of bad information for decades. Any woman that doesn’t realize this may still believe in the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny.
    The fembots have taken over the herd that is “Team Woman”. The women will have to give the fembots the heave ho.

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  23. Yoda says:

    While this is a rhetorical question, how do women get so many bad ideas about what men like?

    Care about men’s desires they do not.
    Only to extent of ring to obtain.

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  24. Yoda says:

    Different men will vote across the spectrum and women will vote for their gender.

    Feminine Imperative this is.

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  25. Yoda says:

    may still believe in the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny.

    Talking bears and little green men better they would be.

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  26. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Yoda,
    It’s not that difficult to keep a husband happy. A lot of what is takes is frequent feeding and breeding. In between, be supportive.
    Mrs. Yoda good sandwiches she makes.

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  27. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Yoda,
    Yes, in this instance a certain talking bear and little green man Would offer better advice.

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  28. Spawny Get says:

    But is it not enough for a man to have a princess snowflake to serve? Is she required to consider him a … a human being with desires of his own?

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  29. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny,
    In that last comment, you have come to the heart of the matter. For a lot of them, I don’t think we have any hemanity. The fembots have been too good at appealing to suspicion and fear.

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  30. theasdgamer says:

    Just remember: Men are inadequate women. Hence, any problem is a man’s fault. This, of course, is a natural outflow from the pedestalization of women. Women are the ideal by which men are judged. Hence, men are necessarily inadequate.

    Also following from the pedestalization of women: The happiness of women is paramount.

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  31. Spawny Get says:

    I was about to say what Gamer said.

    If she’s happy and he, the defective woman, isn’t. Then it must be his fault for being defective.

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  32. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    In mulling over what Theasdgamer said, women can have a short term advantage. This advantage cnnot stand for the long term because it is based on falsity.
    Men are not defective wmen and honest women don’t like pedestals.

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  33. Padawan says:

    Her World (by Padawan, Poet Laureate 2014 – ?)

    Harass them with barely a greeting
    Or a look that might be but fleeting,
    Rape will apply
    If you are near by
    Whenever she starts up her bleating

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  34. Yoda says:

    Then it must be his fault for being defective.

    Blame victim you do.
    Liberals to cause they should rush.

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  35. Spawny Get says:

    Men cannot be victims because…erm…patriarchy

    That’s feminism 101

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  36. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    There are women out there that want healthy, long term relationships. The first one that comes to mind is Bloom. These women are beginning to see that feminism isn’t too helpful with this ambition. No one has mentioned #womenagainstfeminism for a while. I hope that it is still plugging along.

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  37. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny,
    The girls are talking and that is good.

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  38. Farm Boy says:

    From this link,

    http://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/500492/Most-divorcees-regret-marriage-break-up

    Top 10 reasons for regretting a divorce

    1. I miss my ex-partner

    2. I still love my ex-partner

    3. I felt like failure

    4. I felt lonely

    5. I realised I was being unreasonable

    6. I discovered the grass isn’t greener

    7. My ex-partner has found someone new

    8. I realised I’m not better off on my own

    9. It has damaged my/my partner’s relationship with our children

    10. My children’s lives have been affected

    Consider #10.

    Consider the fact that it is #10.

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  39. Farm Boy says:

    A note about present and future posts. I do not intend for every post to break new ground. There will be stuff that many already are familiar with. However, there are new people coming and going to websites every day, and it can be good if they have the opportunity to learn of the read pill from the basics.

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  40. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Farm Boy,
    I reposted your link over at Bloom’s. More ammo for her posts!
    Looking forward to more posts from you!

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  41. Yoda says:

    Perhaps Bloom should post here. Pool out efforts.

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  42. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Bloom’s target is women. Judging by the comments on her site, she has a lot of guys following her. She needs more girls. Any ideas for her?

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  43. blurkel says:

    Getting to the party late, but that’s what happens when work is scheduled!

    Fuzzie made a comment above:

    “I don’t know what gets into women thinking that they can have an asexual relationship with their husbands and all wil be well.”

    This isn’t so hard to understand when one notes two things: Sex is but the bait to win the ring, and the real feminine purpose for marriage is financial support. Once the ring is given and the license signed, The Law is what gives her the power to determine what he gets to expect from her, and that isn’t much. There is no legal requirement for marital sex, and some legal defense against marital rape (as she defines it, not him). But every dollar (pound, euro, etc) is counted if she complains that she’s not being supported in a style to which she desires to become accustomed.

    My wife has a saying she got from her mother (and who probably got it from HER mother, and so on) which goes “Your job is to earn the money and mine is to spend it.” It irks the hell out of me, for while I had to go out and put forth the effort to make the money in the first place, I get to turn it all over in return for next to nothing. Poor food, a filthy house, no sex – I even had to start doing my own laundry because she was ruining my clothes the way she did it.

    To give her her due, she’s good about paying the bills. But she sees fit to spend any excess as she sees fit, something ELSE I’m denied.

    She could do none of this without that ring and that license. That is power, and young men need to learn about this before they become victims of it.

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  44. Alana says:

    Nice post, Farm Boy! I think women have to remember to talk with women and men a bit differently–eg less details when talking to guys. And yes gossiping is a bad habit–women should cut down gossiping with men AND women. Lol.

    Spawny “Men aren’t like women, they don’t like drama, they don’t like talking endlessly for the sake of it, they don’t need to exchange views with you all the time (ladies) because most of the time they don’t care what your views are about unimportant crap like bigbrother, bonobos of jersey shore, perish hilton or the karda$$ians latest drama”.

    Lol I can’t imagine discussing some nonsense about the Kardeshans with a guy I’m dating. However, when u say men don’t wanna exchange views with us all the time, does that include discussing more intellectual things like the the solar system, current affairs (eg politics), etc? I know there are different types of guys, but just asking about the majority of guys.

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  45. Spawny Get says:

    @Alana
    1) talk to men as much as you see other men talk to them. Add sex if you want to talk more as this is a somewhat negotiable issue (let his reaction be your guide. If you’re speaking for two minutes at a time and getting a one word replies…you are talking too much). More sex, then you get to talk while he falls asleep (it’s perfectly natural for him to do so. take it as a compliment that you have satisfied his carnal desires)

    2) we’ll put up with some talk about some people directly known to us 😉
    third party gossip, work gossip…not interested. Especially as we all know that women don’t want to resolve issues, they just want emote about things that they find perfectly drama inducing just as they are. We don’t want the drama. We don’t want faux concerned emoting over drama producing issues. Boring and/or stressful to men…really!

    3) speaking to men about problems should only…ONLY…occur when a solution to the issue is sought. Otherwise you’re just talking for the sake of it. You should have female friends for this.

    “all the time” was the key part of the phrase.

    Exams go okay? 🙂

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  46. Alana says:

    Spawny: ” talk to men as much as you see other men talk to them… If you’re speaking for two minutes at a time and getting a one word replies…you are talking too much”

    That’s great advice Spawny, thanks! Yeah I think if a woman listens as much, or more, than she talks, she’s probably on the right track.

    And I’ve noticed that too–about women tending to whine without listening to solutions men offer; I’m sure it’s frustrating to guys! I rarely do that, but I’m sure I’ve done it before and I must remember not to repeat it.

    Hehe exams went alrite, thanks! Glad they’re over 🙂 Christmas is coming, I bet the UK seems way more Christmas-y than over here, because u have the winter-y weather to go with it. 🙂 I know Brits complain about the weather, but I was in London once in December and I loved the chilly weather, even though it rained a little.

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  47. theasdgamer says:

    @ Spawny

    we’ll put up with some talk about some people directly known to us

    Oh, yeah, I was gossiping all to h311 last Friday about a woman who’s been chasing me with one of her ex’s. Resembles a town bike.

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  48. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    As bad as things are in Britain, they can’t be this bad.
    http://voxday.blogspot.com/2014/11/unrest-across-europe.html

    [SG – you misspelled your name, that’s why it got caught up. fixed it]

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  49. Spawny Get says:

    History podcast cache from the beeb as reported by Cappy Cap.
    http://www.historyextra.com/podcasts

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  50. Spawny Get says:

    HUSBANDS WHO SHOUT AT WIVES WILL FACE 14 YEARS IN JAIL UNDER NEW LAW

    This is one of the proposed replacements for dickhead Dave…a right winger allegedly. Misandric bigotry comes in all colours it seems.

    Men who exercise “coercive control” over their partners by restricting their personal or financial freedom, or through overt criticism could face up to 14 years in jail under new laws set to be announced by Home Secretary Theresa May this week. Campaigners, who have been arguing for a change in the law to bring emotional abuse into line legally with physical abuse, have praised the proposals as a “major step forward”.
    The new law will be introduced as a series of amendments to the Serious Crime Bill, and will alter the legal definition of domestic abuse to include psychological, as well as physical damage. It is expected to pass into law in the new year.
    May has been attempting to find a way to introduce these proposals for some time now. In 2011, she described coercive control as “a complex pattern of abuse using power and psychological control over another — financial control, verbal abuse, forced social isolation. These incidents may vary in seriousness and may be repeated over time.”

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  51. Farm Boy says:

    My wife has a saying she got from her mother (and who probably got it from HER mother, and so on) which goes “Your job is to earn the money and mine is to spend it.”

    My Mom controlled the day to day spending. My Dad earned the money (not so much really) and it was mostly spent on family costs. And my Mom was very careful about how it was spent.

    From the modern perspective, this is odd. But it did work.

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  52. Farm Boy says:

    Husbands-Who-Shout-At-Wives-Will-Face-14-Years-In-Jail-Under-New-Law

    That reminds of the old joke,

    A fella goes to the doctor and says, “Doctor it hurts when I raise my arm up like this”. To which the doctor replies, “Then don’t do that”.

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  53. Yoda says:

    If you’re speaking for two minutes at a time and getting a one word replies…you are talking too much

    More like Yoda women should be.
    Two sentence bursts best they are.

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  54. Yoda says:

    you misspelled your name

    Perhaps bear temporarily out of hibernation he did come.
    Groggy he may be.

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  55. Spawny Get says:

    “More like Yoda women should be.”

    YIKES

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  56. Spawny Get says:

    Now they want to censor our MSM newspapers. The long bankrupt ‘it’s for the cheeeldren’ which has been used for years to shut down all debate.

    At what age should children be exposed to the adult world? For the psychotic control freak mummies at campaign group Child Eyes, the answer to that question appears to be: never. Child Eyes has successfully campaigned to have newspaper covers hidden in major UK supermarkets such as Tesco and Waitrose. The covers, they say, “normalise sexualised and sexist imagery” and shouldn’t be in a toddler’s line of sight.
    This bizarre demand is only the start for Child Eyes, because it’s not just newspapers and lads’ mags which are for the chop. According to their website, they also want magazines like Men’s Health banned (for “self-esteem” issues). They’re even going after women’s weeklies like Take a Break, the sort which have real life horror stories like “I was raped for a packet of Maltesers” (which the nutters at Child Eyes say, incredibly, “glorifies” rape and child abuse).

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  57. Yoda says:

    YIKES

    Jabba, better it would be?

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  58. Yoda says:

    YIKES

    Jar-Jar poor role model for women he would be.
    Modern women embraced strongly they did.

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  59. Spawny Get says:

    Jar-Jar – “Modern women embraced strongly they did.”
    I couldn’t stand that character

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  60. Spawny Get says:

    I wouldn’t mind the blacklist idea so much if the SJW scum weren’t the first to start whining about standards when they are applied to them.

    BUT the IGDA blacklist is must a list of followers and followers of followers and followers of followers of followers of #GamerGate isn’t it?

    I mean Colonel Sanders’ KFC is on it.

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  61. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I am sorryfor gumming up the works by not double checking.

    [SG – don’t worry about it. I was letting you know why your comment was hung up. I fix my screwups all the time]

    That fourteen tear sentence threat should be taken seriously. At bottom, it’s all about handing the wife all the power in the relationship. This law would prosecute men for objectiong.

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  62. Spawny Get says:

    it’s fifteen years for a murder conviction…

    ever heard the saying, “Might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb“?

    you can’t marry and I don’t see any difference between married or not with this misandric beau-lux.

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  63. Yoda says:

    Perhaps blacklist provide candidates to hire.
    Prople who love games it would self-select.

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  64. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    What would happen if pillars of the establishment started advising men to not marry in the face of this legislation?
    Marriage 2.0 is bad enough. This takes it past ridiculous.

    For those already married, it may be time for support and defense groups.

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  65. Spawny Get says:

    “Perhaps blacklist provide candidates to hire.”

    I’d consider it a sign of intelligence that such people looked at both sides. Many on it wouldn’t have shown any sympathy to Gamergate, so being blacklisted is unfair…is illegal in the States?

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  66. Spawny Get says:

    They’ve also started doxxing people appealing their inclusion on the list…it really is appalling.

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  67. Spawny Get says:

    “What would happen if pillars of the establishment started advising men to not marry in the face of this legislation?”

    Theresa May is the ‘Home Secretary’ that’s pretty pillory…[sic]

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  68. Yoda says:

    Theresa May is the ‘Home Secretary’

    Winston Churchill Home Secretary he was.
    Embarrassed he would be.

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  69. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    This law will be in force prior to the next general election. This may make one heck of a topic for debate.
    I am still shocked. People are going to argue. This law would make it a crime for men.

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  70. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Toda,
    Churchill felt that suffragettes should be prosecuted with full vigor.
    He knew women had agency. His mother provided an example.

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  71. Spawny Get says:

    Fuzzie,
    at the moment it’s all about immigration (which means it’s about the EU – can’t do anything about immigration while part of the EU). Men’s rights are nowhere as an issue. I would expect UKIP to be more grounded, but the subject doesn’t come up.

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  72. Spawny Get says:

    Alright, who ratted out to Bloom what men like? Some of this is secret stuff dammit.
    http://notesfromaredpillgirl.com/2014/11/24/10-surprising-things-guys-like-in-a-women/

    Loose lips sink ships, or something

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  73. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I do hope that it becomes an issue before men start getting prosecuted and imprisoned for this stuff.
    Good grief, every couple has an arguemnt once in while.It’s usually over allocation of limited resources, i.e. money.

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  74. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny, since food is not on the list, she must have used another source.
    I thought the reason that she wrote the post was to explain this to women so that they will provide. In doing so, the world becomes a happier place for all.

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  75. Spawny Get says:

    I smell witchcraft, Fuzzie. Sorry, but I do. I left a comment there to that effect.

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  76. Yoda says:

    Toda

    Still groggy from hibernation you are.

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  77. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    It’s just Bloom sharing what she has learnt.
    Here’s a headscratcher for the guys here: Bloom seems to have plenty of male readership.
    How do we get more girls to read Bloom? They might learn something useful.

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  78. Spawny Get says:

    Fuzzie,
    I thought it,was a good post, so I put a link in comments here to encourage people to have a look. Pretty sure Bloom recognises my alleged humour (sighs and then moves on).

    I’m wondering about making this blog searchable by Google et al. Anyone got any views?

    If Bloom’s place isn’t searchable that would help to bring in people. There are also aggregator sites that one can request listing on. Not sure what they are for the female side. Could ask JFG to link to her (if they don’t already. IDK)

    I’m very happy for you to link to any new posts there in comments here, or I will.

    Late here….gnight

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  79. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Something that I haven’t seen before and may not happen again. Captain Capitalism and Paul Elam on the same page at the same time.
    http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/2014/11/australia-white-ribbon-campaign-absuing.html

    http://judgybitch.com/2014/11/24/on-white-ribbon-day-help-promote-awareness-of-domestic-violence-as-an-issue-that-affects-everyone/

    The short version:
    One of the point that Paul Elam notes is that for all the money that White Ribbon Australia takes in, none of it oes to benefit the victims. It all covers the expenses and not all of those.
    Captain Capitalism is furious!

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  80. FuzzieWuzzie says:

    Spawny Get,
    I think it would help to make your blog searchable. Bloom’s is searchable. What I think she needs to do is comment on more women’s blogs and leave links.
    G’night

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  81. Spawny Get says:

    I saw the PE post. What a scam.

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  82. Spawny Get says:

    I agree Fuzzie. Twitter too. I haven’t used it for that, but getting the word out can be easy once you have some followers.

    A demain, mes amis

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  83. Tarnished says:

    “Now, put a guy and a girl together. The guy thinks that a good night is going to see a movie with his girl, or perhaps watching TV together. The girl thinks that a dinner with lots of conversation is the ideal.”
    -Why not do both? Go to a movie, then afterwards get a bite to eat and discuss said movie.

    “In bed, what does the fella want to do after the deed is done? What does the lady want?”
    -He wants to cuddle/lay together and talk about his day. I want to get up and do something, like play a videogame or read. Our compromise? I hold him and talk with him til he falls asleep, then I go read in the living room. When he wakes up, we play videogames then go out for lunch. That way both our needs are satisfied.

    Isn’t this how relationships are meant to work? 😉

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  84. Yoda says:

    Our compromise?

    Women are told to compromise not.
    All they must have.

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  85. Spawny Get says:

    Compromising with da menz is patriarchal oppression at work

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  86. Spawny Get says:

    Speaking of patriarchal oppression (via twitter & La Hoff)
    aerosol
    That is Phil Plait, the Slate guy who slagged off Matt Taylor for the shirt

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  87. Tarnished says:

    Yoda,
    They obviously didn’t have very good role models. I’m almost convinced that my willingness to compromise and care for others is a direct result of being raised by my great-grandmother and grandmother in my developing years. They were both widows by that time, but never spoke harshly about my late grandfathers. I was taught that compromise is what all friendships/relationships are founded on, and that you are only as strong as your weakest loved one…so it is wiser to help raise them up to your level than to push them down. The knowledge of a more equal age, imo.

    Spawny,
    Wait…I’m oppressed? That’s strange. I don’t feel oppressed. I must’ve become brainwashed by Teh Patriarchy without realizing it! How should I combat this heinous crime? 😉

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  88. Yoda says:

    Phil Phlait

    Needs help propping it up he does.

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  89. Spawny Get says:

    I suspect that you’ve internalised your misogyny, Tarn. Don’t you hate it when that happens? Best cough it up like a fur ball.

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  90. theasdgamer says:

    “Now, put a guy and a girl together. The guy thinks that a good night is going to see a movie with his girl, or perhaps watching TV together. The girl thinks that a dinner with lots of conversation is the ideal.”
    -Dancing usually, dinner optional. Mrs. Gamer is also optional, lol. Mrs. Gamer isn’t a big talker, usually. Our communication is more physical and joking.

    “In bed, what does the fella want to do after the deed is done? What does the lady want?”
    -Normally I get up. Last time the endorphin rush was so huge that all I could do was lie there and enjoy it. Mrs. Gamer seems to be happy with following my lead.

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